It All Happened In October…Moving away, ending a relationship & more!😮

Does anyone still remember me? I’ve been off of WordPress only about a month but it feels like so much longer. I feel like I have to learn how to be a blogger all over again. I can’t be the only one.

A few months ago I told myself that by October I wanted to reach my 1K follower goal. Well, that didn’t happen because everything else did and I had to step away and take a real break. Many things were broken in the month of October, but by the end… Things may just be getting better. I’ll have to keep pushing forward to find out.

So what exactly did happen last month? That’s what you might be wondering. I’m back to give you all the minor details.
In my last What’s Up Wednesday post I mentioned how things weren’t going so great with my living arrangements, we found out we couldn’t keep or afford the apartment anymore. Technically we could afford it but some people like to splurge when they know rent is due and that kept giving us setbacks. I’m not talking about myself. 

A few days into October my boyfriend and I had a huge fight, and I do mean huge. Actually right after my last post which is why I did not return like I had planned. Things were broken around the apartment including our relationship. I won’t speak about the exact reasons for the fight or breaking up, but know that it wasn’t an overreaction type of situation. He messed up. I got all of my things and left with nowhere really to go. For weeks I moved around from house to house with different family members. 

He is back with his mom and so are our pets. I miss them so much and it hurts so much. They suffered from our problems. Izabelle didn’t like moving to his moms, she hid in the closet for days until I came over to comfort her. Now she is doing much better. We also got a new kitten that I planned on introducing before everything happened…
Her name is Zoey and she is about 4-5 months now. Isn’t she adorable? Maybe I’ll still do a proper introduction soon. She’s doing fine at my boyfriends moms, probably because she’s so young and adventurous. The guinea pigs are doing fine as well but I probably won’t do anymore YouTube videos of them.

I actually don’t know what to call my “boyfriend” we had been trying to work things out but our time apart has only made me realize so much that I was in denial about while we were together. We still talk everyday and see each other sometimes, there’s no hate between us but it’s definitely not the same. It may just be 2 years down the drain. He doesn’t want to lose me but I can’t promise anything at this moment. Whether we fix things or not he’ll always be around, he’s been around for over 10 years in our family.

I ended up staying with my cousin for a while, I’m still at her place with her big family. Everything is fine, it’s a bit more stressful not having as much alone time but at the same time I needed to be around friends/family. They have helped me a lot through all that’s been going on. 

I also ran into someone from the past which was strange because I had been getting signs like dreams and tarot readings (that I sometimes watch/read for fun) that someone from the past would be coming back into my life. There was no bad history, we just kind of stopped talking. I even prayed to be guided and sent to where I needed to be, who I needed to be around… Two days after that prayer is when the big fight happened. So I’m not really sure what is happening but something definitely is. I’m not jumping into anything but I’ll mention this situation again as time goes by. When I came to my cousins house towards the middle of October things have just started to feel right and better ever since, the last week of October was amazing but obviously I’m still torn and hurt trying to figure out what’s next. I learned and found out about many things that has shaken my life up but I look forward to the good from it all. There’s usually something better coming when life is shaken up like this.

Another thing is I plan to go back to work soon and maybe even enroll back in school sometime next year. I’m going to get back into my crafts and continue working on a poetry book and many other things that I had been putting off to the side. I feel more motivated now. You may see me back on social media slowly but surely, I’m going to be making changes and improvements everywhere. I haven’t forgot about the posts I planned such as natural hair and Fun Friday, those will be coming. I definitely need to work on SheLivesLove and not neglect it anymore so I will be busy.

I really hope all is well with you all, I hope that whoever is reading this has had a wonderful October and a great start of November. I hope to chat with you all again. I was away for a while but not for good so this is me updating you on my crazy life and welcoming my own return. Don’t be afraid to leave a comment, email me or whatever you wish💖

Thank you for reading.

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Unfortunately…

Unfortunately I have not been able to post like I expected this week. Last week I was really sick and thought I felt much better that weekend. I was wrong. Things got worse and a lot of other strange things going on. My boyfriend and I are both sick now and he almost lost his job today. He is a diabetic and me, I just don’t know what’s going on. I woke up at 2AM violently throwing up. It came out of nowhere and really scared me because I was sweating so much yet I felt cold and it hurt my chest and throats so bad.  I also need to have something on my stomach checked out. There is a rash that looks like a bruise, it itches sometimes and hurts in that area on the inside. I’ll show a picture, Maybe some of you all have seen it before but I’m clueless as to what’s going on. It’s been there for over 2 weeks I know. Take a look. Any ideas?


Now we both feel extremely weak (boyfriend and I) still hot and cold. I’ll explain and update you all more on things a bit later.

We are both heading to the hospital to be seen. 

I hope to be back to normal and blogging as usual soon. I hope to get better soon and that nothing is seriously wrong. Thank you all for stopping by💖

Behind The Name: SheLivesLove💖

Choosing a blog name can easily be one of the best parts of starting your blog, but it can just as easily be the most frustrating process. Whether you are starting your blog for the first time, or rebranding, picking the best name is important. When I started GoldenPinkJournal, I didn’t know nearly as much as I do now and I also didn’t take the time to think it through to make sure that I was making the best decision for my blog. I’ve noticed so many other bloggers going through the same thing so I thought I would share my process of picking a good name and a few tips to help you with yours.

The first thing I did to start the process was deciding what my blog was all about. Will it be a lifestyle, beauty & fashion blog, or other? What topics will I blog about? Who will be your potential audience? What general message and feeling do I want readers to leave with? Can you see yourself still using the name years from now?
These are questions you can ask yourself as well. I wanted my blog to focus on lifestyle and inspiration, spreading positivity, and have readers leave feeling a love of life despite hardships, learn or be inspired to do something. My audience will mostly be women.

I then wrote down topics and words that relate to my blog, I also included some of my favorite words. A shortened list of words I wrote down:

  • Lifestyle
  • Life/Live
  • Love/Lovely
  • Inspiration/Inspire
  • Creativity
  • Discussions
  • Poetry
  • Flowers/Rose
  • Reverie
  • Her/She/Girl
  • Thoughts
  • Epiphany
  • Euphoria 
  • Eloquence
  • Luminary

Still pretty lengthy right?

After that list, I researched other blogs to see how their names were. I considered my actual name as I know that is a way some people brand themselves and really get themselves out there. During my research, I found many bloggers who do in fact use their name but also many that do not. Using your own name can be great depending on how long it is if it’s easy to remember, if it has a nice ring to it, and what your blog will be about. But if your name is something like Philanzio Amauiori (totally made this name up) or Ann Smith (this name is too common) you might want to consider something else. Readers won’t be able to remember your name easily, or it will already be taken. If someone heard it on the radio or on television would they know how to spell it? If you would have a problem with an employer or family member finding your blog you also should consider a different name.

I chose not to go with my name because I liked other names better and I didn’t want people confused on my middle name, Lecole [Lee-cole]. Some people don’t know how to pronounce it or would think it was my last name. I can just make sure that people associate my blog with it instead of using it as my domain. If I used my last name it would sound like any other common name but you can also think of alternatives. For example, Aimee [Ah-Mee] Song.  At first glance of Aimee, most people would think it is just another way of spelling “Amy.” Song is actually her last name, and her blog is named Song of Style. You could also do something like “LovelyLecole” “Phil Amour” “AnnAmazingLife” but I decided not to include my name. I wanted something sweet and easy to remember.

Popular blogger names I found and like are WishWishWish, GalMeetsGlam, TheSkinnyConfidential, The Everygirl, and pink Peonies.

By this time I was ready to start writing down a list of potential names for my blog. A few of the choices I came up with were LovelyReverie, LiveToInspire, ReverieInspired, and SheLivesLove.

One thing you should always do when choosing a name is checking to make sure the domain name and social media handles are available. This will help you eliminate some of the potential names in your list, you can also eliminate longer names and those that are your least favorite of course.

I noticed that on my social media accounts I always use the phrase “She is to love and be loved.” This is something I’ve always told myself since I was younger. I always had this feeling that part of my purpose in life is to spread a lot of love and inspiration to others, and in return be loved by a lot of people. This was perfect for the potential name on my list, sheliveslove! A great website that acts as a name generator and domain checker is bustaname.com. Try to list about 6 words to start seeing suggestions. Here I’ve included a screenshot example I’ve done:

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You may have to add several words before you get a good list of ideas unless you include your name. You can also click on the blue arrows to get more word suggestions.

 As for sheliveslove, I wanted to wait a while to see if my mind would change or any other names would come to me. I also checked to make sure the domain name and social media handles were available and I was good to go, other than a blank Instagram account which I didn’t see as too much of a problem since no one was actually using it. I just added an underscore to mine. If you have to do that with all or even most social media handles I would suggest going for another.

After weeks of deliberation, I decided this was the right name for me and thus sheliveslove.com was born!💖

Whatever you do, just don’t choose a name that can easily come off as something else like the names listed on this website for example:

30 Unintentionally Inappropriate Domain Names

One of them is “Penisland” (Pen Island) but some people could easily think that says… Well, what do you think? Lol.

There you have it. This is how I chose my new blog name, one that works so much better for me. How did you come up with your name? Can you add any tips? Comment below.✨

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Big BIG News!!💖

OKAY! I know you all are probably wondering why there was no Fun Friday post last week…

Well, that’s because this whole weekend I spent working on my new blog and the time has come that I’m ready to start this new journey! I’m extremely excited and nervous at the same but I can’t wait to chat with you all about the changes.💕

I won’t discuss it all in this post because there’s just so much. I have come up with a schedule and other things that I will share with you all later. I’m actually typing this at 3:30 AM- YIKES. I must be crazy. I plan on waking back up to start the day around 9 but it could be longer depending on how tired I am (this will be a scheduled post) so I should get some sleep soon.

The main thing I wanted to let you all know was my new blog name of course!

The big, BIG news? Yes, you probably guessed it! Did you???

I am now self-hosted!😮 I’ll also be starting fresh with social media.

Like I said, there’s so much to discuss. I’ll chat with you all soon. Thanks for reading and check out my new blog over at sheliveslove.com

Now you all get to know what my real name is 😮 only one other blogger knows it already. Shout out to Cheila💕

I’m still working out things, and my theme will probably change but it is up and running. Also, there are a few blog related posts up already. Normal posts will start on Wednesday. I hope you all like the changes so far, let me know what you think.

Goodnight/Goodmorning✨

I’m so ready to be back to happy blogging and being a part of the community like I once was.💕💕💕

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A Few Updates & Thank You For 700 Followers!✨

A few updates…

  • My next post will be the last feature for my 500 Follower Q&A Game Series, I’ll be sharing another app
  • You may have noticed I haven’t been on Instagram much this past week, a lot has been going on. Also, I’m going to have to make another change there. UGH! So much change. There will also be something new with Twitter but i’m focusing on Instagram at the moment.
  • I said I was going to start my new blog right after I am done with features but I have decided to give myself 2 more weeks. This is so I can make final adjustments, be sure things are the way I want, get a few posts ready instead of just 1, and for a little rest. A little break from the pressure of uploading almost every day.
  • During these next two weeks I won’t be posting much, probably 2 or 3 times if any, and reposting old uploads. I will be using this time to reply to some of my many unanswered comments, and reading some of your posts as I haven’t lately. Expect to catch me in your comments soon:)
  • I have reached 700 followers, THANK YOU all so much! Especially since I haven’t been as active💛💛💛
  • This next update is kind of a story too: This past week has been full of ups and downs, but there was one moment that was kind of both at the same time. I recently signed up for a free trial on ancestry.com, I don’t know much about my family because I grew up in foster care and with aunts/grandmothers/sisters etc. My mother’s side is the side I know least about since she wasn’t around at all. I do know that she had at least 2 other children and gave them up for adoption. I saw one of them because he was taken away, we were all in court. He was about 1 at the time so not old enough to remember anything. His name is Dewayne and I always remembered that, and that he was a few years younger than I am. That’s all I knew.While searching on Ancestry, I found a few things about my mom and dad, and their parent’s that I already knew. I couldn’t find much more after that and was ready to cancel my free trial. Something told me to try a search one more time before officially giving up. I followed my intuition and searched Dewayne (with my last name) and an estimate of how old he might be. My guess was around 16.

    I can’t explain the feeling I got when a name popped up with my mothers name as his mother! I was excited, surprised, and anxious to know more. I really just wanted to cry. It wasn’t a lot of information (only his full name, birthday, and our mother’s name) but it was more than what I had. My brother turned 18 in February. I turned 23 in March. For 18 years, he has not known that he has older siblings out there. For about 23 years I’ve known about him, out there somewhere. It will probably be much longer because I’m sure his last name is changed from adoption. A Facebook search led me nowhere. I wonder If his foster parents has told him much of anything yet? Since he is 18 now… I know some people make public posts when they are searching for a family member, but I guess I wasn’t ready to try that step yet. What if they don’t want him to know, but he has the right doesn’t he? For now I’ll be talking with family and asking more questions. I will continue to search for him until we finally meet. I am one step closer…

Life is changing and moving rapidly, but I feel that I couldn’t be more ready for these changes. I don’t know what will happen in the next few weeks, months, or years but I’m feeling growth happening, I’m feeling blessings coming. I’m feeling there is a great reason for all of this. This is why I’m trying my best to keep positive and keep the faith alive despite all the things that bring a challenge my way. Do you any of you understand this feeling? Have you felt this way before?

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Some blog updates..

No intro, just getting right to it:

– Some of you already have seen but my Instagram and Twitter is no longer GoldenPinkJournal/goldenpinkj. It is now aroseinreverie (a rose in reverie).

– I am still working on my new blog. My blog name will not be aroseinreverie. I thought hard about this and have made my decision. This whole process with more detail will be in the first post on the new blog.

– I know I have not been commenting or answering comments. Honestly I had to stop forcing myself to do it. When I’m happy I’m extremely happy, but when I’m sad and down, I’m extremely sad and down. I don’t want to really be bothered or talk to anyone. I’ll only be a bitch or depressing and I avoid that for everyone’s sake, my own included. I talk to myself, I pray, I write. Sometimes I share my thoughts and keep it moving. I always feel bad when I’m not being as active as I could be but I’m no longer going to apologize for having bad days and hoping people will understand. I’m also speaking of my personal life. It’s now like, if you care and want to be here for me, great. If you don’t, you don’t. What can I do besides move forward with my life? You can’t please everyone and not everyone will be loyal to you. Usually when things go terribly wrong is when you can see who your real friends are, and who really cares. At least that’s what is said.

– I’ve already said how I’m not happy with Goldenpinkjournal which makes me not look forward to logging in or posting, which is why I can’t wait until I’m ready to share and start on this new blog. I need a fresh start. I need to do things the right way this time. What I feel, not what I think everyone else will like. Not focusing on putting stuff out everyday just to increase numbers and keep my followers around and active.

– I don’t want to make promises I can’t keep so I won’t say I’ll catch up on the weekends, or I’ll post this on a certain day… when I’m feeling up to it and feeling back to normal I’ll be here.

– Short Story Saturday will no longer be. There will be no more short stories on GoldenPinkJournal. When I’m on the new blog I will only post short stories when I have one I really want to share. I will also talk about this later.

– Won’t be posting to do lists for a while

– I’m working on a book and getting my Wattpad account back together so that is also taking up much of my time. Also considering work again or my small business because there is some financial issues going on. I’m feeling forced to do so which is going to take up even more of my time, possibly cause more stress.

– I am working on my social media accounts. I have decided that on Instagram I will mainly post my writings, and nature photography. Those that already follow me know I post a lot of sunset pictures.

– My Twitter will pretty much be random thoughts I post and retweets. I really don’t use twitter specifically for my blog and most of the bloggers I see there aren’t really active. I think Twitter may be the hardest social media network for blogging. What do you think?

– I’m still thinking about taking my blog to Facebook but I’m not sure. Does Facebook really help much or is it much like Twitter?

– After this week with Cherylene, I have 2 more bloggers to feature. After that is when the main changes will happen.

– As of right now, my new blog and first post will be up in 2 weeks.

 What does this all mean for GoldenPinkJournal?

– I will not be deleting or completely neglecting this blog. I have worked hard on it and have made almost 700 followers. I’ve learned so much about myself and blogging during these past 6 months so I want to be able to look back on this blog. I also want to keep it active just not as much as now, I’m thinking 2-4 times a month with certain things that I will post. More on that later because I’m still deciding and sorting through all the details.

– I’m currently thinking too much…

Those are the updates I have for now. Thank you to those of you who still read and comment, and also to those that message/email me. I don’t always check my mail on time and sometimes see it late but I really appreciate it.

This is to all of you but especially Cheila. Whenever I’m down she finds a way to reach out to me and I end up seeing the messages days or a week later. Cheila you have such a beautiful soul, thank you so much for always checking up on me. I know you have a lot going on also so we don’t keep up with each other as much as we use to but that’s okay💕

I know so many of us are going through things at the moment so to all of those beautiful souls…Thank you for your kindness and we will talk again if it’s tomorrow or in 2 weeks.✨

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Small Weekend Pickups + Updates✨

This was just going to be a few updates, but I decided to share my small weekend pickups also 🙂

On Sunday I went out in search for a few t-shirts and shorts, I’m in desperate need of new clothes for every season. I’m way too behind on shopping, but sometimes there are bigger things to worry about and there are priorities.

Since we’re on a budget I decided not to do a huge shopping spree at once but instead, a few items here and there until I have a few outfits at least. So here’s what I picked up this past Sunday


Another cute handbag🙂 You can remove the long strap which is great. This is the perfect size for me and I needed a new one because my old black bag was worn out. I can’t wait to switch over!

The last thing I picked up was…


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I really can’t wait to wear this dress! I saw it and my eyes lit up! They also had a gorgeous yellow one💛 I tried them both on but this was my favorite, I usually go for darker clothing which I keep saying I’m trying to step out of lol I’d definitely go back for the yellow though! I can’t wait to see what else I can find.

Now on to the updates:

I only have a few updates at the moment. I’m still thinking about things and working on having better structure so there may be updates scattered throughout the week or throughout the month just a heads up.

  • Expect to see Maggie on my blog this week. The next post featuring will be 7/5/17
  • My boyfriend is off work for the 4th and we will be out with family most of the day so I will not be posting. This also means that my Summer lyrics will be posted on the 5th
  • You may or may not catch me on social media but know that changes are happening there also
  • Words of the week? This is a series I’m not sure I will be keeping
  • I still will not be posting on the weekend (besides Short Story Saturday)
  • Fun Friday will continue 
  • I am extending my Summer Party Playlist Project. More on that later. So if you still want to participate you can☀️
  • I will be spending more time reading and commenting on your posts✨ I know I haven’t as much but it seems many of us are behind lately?

Those are all the updates I have for now. There will be more. 

Goodnight/Good morning whenever you are reading this💖