It All Happened In October…Moving away, ending a relationship & more!😮

Does anyone still remember me? I’ve been off of WordPress only about a month but it feels like so much longer. I feel like I have to learn how to be a blogger all over again. I can’t be the only one.

A few months ago I told myself that by October I wanted to reach my 1K follower goal. Well, that didn’t happen because everything else did and I had to step away and take a real break. Many things were broken in the month of October, but by the end… Things may just be getting better. I’ll have to keep pushing forward to find out.

So what exactly did happen last month? That’s what you might be wondering. I’m back to give you all the minor details.
In my last What’s Up Wednesday post I mentioned how things weren’t going so great with my living arrangements, we found out we couldn’t keep or afford the apartment anymore. Technically we could afford it but some people like to splurge when they know rent is due and that kept giving us setbacks. I’m not talking about myself. 

A few days into October my boyfriend and I had a huge fight, and I do mean huge. Actually right after my last post which is why I did not return like I had planned. Things were broken around the apartment including our relationship. I won’t speak about the exact reasons for the fight or breaking up, but know that it wasn’t an overreaction type of situation. He messed up. I got all of my things and left with nowhere really to go. For weeks I moved around from house to house with different family members. 

He is back with his mom and so are our pets. I miss them so much and it hurts so much. They suffered from our problems. Izabelle didn’t like moving to his moms, she hid in the closet for days until I came over to comfort her. Now she is doing much better. We also got a new kitten that I planned on introducing before everything happened…
Her name is Zoey and she is about 4-5 months now. Isn’t she adorable? Maybe I’ll still do a proper introduction soon. She’s doing fine at my boyfriends moms, probably because she’s so young and adventurous. The guinea pigs are doing fine as well but I probably won’t do anymore YouTube videos of them.

I actually don’t know what to call my “boyfriend” we had been trying to work things out but our time apart has only made me realize so much that I was in denial about while we were together. We still talk everyday and see each other sometimes, there’s no hate between us but it’s definitely not the same. It may just be 2 years down the drain. He doesn’t want to lose me but I can’t promise anything at this moment. Whether we fix things or not he’ll always be around, he’s been around for over 10 years in our family.

I ended up staying with my cousin for a while, I’m still at her place with her big family. Everything is fine, it’s a bit more stressful not having as much alone time but at the same time I needed to be around friends/family. They have helped me a lot through all that’s been going on. 

I also ran into someone from the past which was strange because I had been getting signs like dreams and tarot readings (that I sometimes watch/read for fun) that someone from the past would be coming back into my life. There was no bad history, we just kind of stopped talking. I even prayed to be guided and sent to where I needed to be, who I needed to be around… Two days after that prayer is when the big fight happened. So I’m not really sure what is happening but something definitely is. I’m not jumping into anything but I’ll mention this situation again as time goes by. When I came to my cousins house towards the middle of October things have just started to feel right and better ever since, the last week of October was amazing but obviously I’m still torn and hurt trying to figure out what’s next. I learned and found out about many things that has shaken my life up but I look forward to the good from it all. There’s usually something better coming when life is shaken up like this.

Another thing is I plan to go back to work soon and maybe even enroll back in school sometime next year. I’m going to get back into my crafts and continue working on a poetry book and many other things that I had been putting off to the side. I feel more motivated now. You may see me back on social media slowly but surely, I’m going to be making changes and improvements everywhere. I haven’t forgot about the posts I planned such as natural hair and Fun Friday, those will be coming. I definitely need to work on SheLivesLove and not neglect it anymore so I will be busy.

I really hope all is well with you all, I hope that whoever is reading this has had a wonderful October and a great start of November. I hope to chat with you all again. I was away for a while but not for good so this is me updating you on my crazy life and welcoming my own return. Don’t be afraid to leave a comment, email me or whatever you wish💖

Thank you for reading.

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Some blog updates..

No intro, just getting right to it:

– Some of you already have seen but my Instagram and Twitter is no longer GoldenPinkJournal/goldenpinkj. It is now aroseinreverie (a rose in reverie).

– I am still working on my new blog. My blog name will not be aroseinreverie. I thought hard about this and have made my decision. This whole process with more detail will be in the first post on the new blog.

– I know I have not been commenting or answering comments. Honestly I had to stop forcing myself to do it. When I’m happy I’m extremely happy, but when I’m sad and down, I’m extremely sad and down. I don’t want to really be bothered or talk to anyone. I’ll only be a bitch or depressing and I avoid that for everyone’s sake, my own included. I talk to myself, I pray, I write. Sometimes I share my thoughts and keep it moving. I always feel bad when I’m not being as active as I could be but I’m no longer going to apologize for having bad days and hoping people will understand. I’m also speaking of my personal life. It’s now like, if you care and want to be here for me, great. If you don’t, you don’t. What can I do besides move forward with my life? You can’t please everyone and not everyone will be loyal to you. Usually when things go terribly wrong is when you can see who your real friends are, and who really cares. At least that’s what is said.

– I’ve already said how I’m not happy with Goldenpinkjournal which makes me not look forward to logging in or posting, which is why I can’t wait until I’m ready to share and start on this new blog. I need a fresh start. I need to do things the right way this time. What I feel, not what I think everyone else will like. Not focusing on putting stuff out everyday just to increase numbers and keep my followers around and active.

– I don’t want to make promises I can’t keep so I won’t say I’ll catch up on the weekends, or I’ll post this on a certain day… when I’m feeling up to it and feeling back to normal I’ll be here.

– Short Story Saturday will no longer be. There will be no more short stories on GoldenPinkJournal. When I’m on the new blog I will only post short stories when I have one I really want to share. I will also talk about this later.

– Won’t be posting to do lists for a while

– I’m working on a book and getting my Wattpad account back together so that is also taking up much of my time. Also considering work again or my small business because there is some financial issues going on. I’m feeling forced to do so which is going to take up even more of my time, possibly cause more stress.

– I am working on my social media accounts. I have decided that on Instagram I will mainly post my writings, and nature photography. Those that already follow me know I post a lot of sunset pictures.

– My Twitter will pretty much be random thoughts I post and retweets. I really don’t use twitter specifically for my blog and most of the bloggers I see there aren’t really active. I think Twitter may be the hardest social media network for blogging. What do you think?

– I’m still thinking about taking my blog to Facebook but I’m not sure. Does Facebook really help much or is it much like Twitter?

– After this week with Cherylene, I have 2 more bloggers to feature. After that is when the main changes will happen.

– As of right now, my new blog and first post will be up in 2 weeks.

 What does this all mean for GoldenPinkJournal?

– I will not be deleting or completely neglecting this blog. I have worked hard on it and have made almost 700 followers. I’ve learned so much about myself and blogging during these past 6 months so I want to be able to look back on this blog. I also want to keep it active just not as much as now, I’m thinking 2-4 times a month with certain things that I will post. More on that later because I’m still deciding and sorting through all the details.

– I’m currently thinking too much…

Those are the updates I have for now. Thank you to those of you who still read and comment, and also to those that message/email me. I don’t always check my mail on time and sometimes see it late but I really appreciate it.

This is to all of you but especially Cheila. Whenever I’m down she finds a way to reach out to me and I end up seeing the messages days or a week later. Cheila you have such a beautiful soul, thank you so much for always checking up on me. I know you have a lot going on also so we don’t keep up with each other as much as we use to but that’s okay💕

I know so many of us are going through things at the moment so to all of those beautiful souls…Thank you for your kindness and we will talk again if it’s tomorrow or in 2 weeks.✨

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A Guide to Exploring New Things; Guest Post by Pamela✨

Hello lovelies and welcome back to another Monday!

As you all know, this week I will be featuring Pamela who blogs over on StarringPamela. For the first feature, Pamela has written a great post about exploring and trying new things. She worked hard on this post, it’s so inspiring and informative and I encourage you all to read it! I think you’ll be able to take something from it- I sure did. After reading, be sure to check out her blog and give a follow 🙂

Hi everyone! First, thank you Lee for allowing me to guest post on your blog! Second, thank you to everyone who supports Lee and her wonderful blog! I can’t wait to see how Golden Pink Journal changes and I know it’ll be even more amazing than it already is.

As the title suggests, I’m going to provide you with a step-by-step guide on how to go about trying and exploring new things. This post is by no means intended to be a strict rule book, but rather meant to be a friendly nudge towards encouraging you to find something new to enjoy.

I will focus on hobbies and how to go about finding a way to start working on making that hobby yours! I do hope you’ll find it helpful. So far this has worked for me! I’ve done a range of activities. Such as:

  • Competitive swimming and running in school
  • Played flute for over 10 years
  • Horseback riding as an adult for fun
  • Ballet as an adult, as a college elective and for fun
  • Creative writing for as long as I can remember
  • Film photography as an art elective in college
  • Attending musical theatre productions

I could go on but you get the idea. I also left out blogging from my list as I feel that’s something we probably all share or at least know a lot about here. But there’s quite a few others.

Let’s move on!

Step 1: Find Your Interest

You may already have a specific hobby in mind that you want to do and if so, great! You’re pretty much done with step one. It may be a good idea to keep a few other potentials in the back of your mind in case the hobby you have your eye on doesn’t work for you for whatever reason. More on that later.

If you don’t have an idea already, try making a list of what you’re interested in learning. Don’t hold back! I literally want you to take a few minutes with some paper and pen and write the hobbies that have interested you. All these steps are geared towards working towards that one hobby you will eventually start to learn so you can just compare a few potentials as you go. I would say try to keep it to no more than three so you don’t get overwhelmed.

I haven’t necessarily gone by a list of hobbies when I’ve picked one up. I’ve usually had one that I’ve specifically looked into but if you’re unsure you can consider two or three at the same time to decide which is best for you.

Got your idea? Great! Let’s keep going then.

Step 2: Do Your Research

Before you run away because I didn’t tell you to just jump right in, let me explain. I do believe you have to do your research and learn more about the hobby you want to do in order to be successful and stick with it long term.

Here is what I suggest you start gathering:

  • Cost. Let’s be honest, hobbies can be expensive! You’ll need to know how much you need to pay for the instruction, any equipment you might need to provide for yourself, and other costs you might encounter.
  • Time. Hobbies will also take time. Will this work with your schedule? You need to know how much time you need to dedicate to this hobby.
  • Place. Where could you learn this hobby? You don’t need to pin down a place yet, just get a general idea of where you could do it. Here’s some ideas to get you started:
    • A local community college
    • Local park district or library
    • Online classes
    • Friends/family (word of mouth)
    • Lifestyle brands (some can point you in the right direction or even offer classes themselves, this is more common in outdoors-y or active/fitness brands or music brands)
  • Requirements. Some hobbies are easier to do as children and some you can only do as an adult of a certain age. Others require certain physical abilities so if you have certain limitations be sure to keep that in mind while you search. There might also be some seasonal/weather related requirements as well.

Now that you have a bit more knowledge on your hobby of interest, you hopefully have a good sense of whether or not this will work for you. If it does, that’s wonderful! You can proceed to Step 3. If it does not, don’t despair! You can always select something else and start Step 2 over again. This doesn’t mean that you won’t ever do the one you ruled out, it just means you won’t do it now.

Let’s continue!

Step 3: Prepare

Okay, so now you do need to focus on the specifics of the hobby you plan to do.

I recommend you start with the place you will go to. Why? Because what you need to do to prepare will likely vary from place to place.

Dress codes can be very different from one place to another. Equipment requirements could also change as some places provide more than others and certain places either require certain items or ban others. Lesson times, facility hours, and prices are usually comparable because of competition from place to place, but it’s still a good idea to compare them as they can be different as well or, if it’s something you need to schedule, they may not have the time/day you want available.

So you can see that the location can greatly impact what you will ultimately need, so it is important to narrow that down fairly early on when you know you do want to pursue that hobby. And at this point it’s important to figure out what you need to do to afford it. If you need to save before you can commit, or wait until you have more time to dedicate to the hobby, do so. It’ll save you a lot of stress and headache later.

Of course, not all hobbies require all of this but the more specific information you have on what you’ll really need to get started, the easier it’ll be when you start doing it because you’ll know what to expect.

Lastly, take some time to learn what to expect when you walk in if it’s a hobby you haven’t done before or haven’t done in a long time. You can talk to people who you know have done it, blogs are excellent resources as well, and you can phone ahead to the place you want to go to as well to ask questions about it.

Sometimes we don’t go out and explore because it’s something unknown. But you never know what you’ll love if you don’t try it, right?

Step 4: Commit!

Now that you’re prepared with all your knowledge do whatever you need to do to get yourself in that door! (Figuratively and/or literally depending on your hobby.) Be sure to verify anything you want to double check on such as methods of payment they accept, dress code, what you’ll need, etc. If this is a hobby you can do from home, or you can just show up to the location then even better for you!

Just make sure that no matter which type of commitment you make, you follow through with it!

Here’s all the steps again:

  • Step 1: Find Your Interest
  • Step 2: Do Your Research
  • Step 3: Prepare
  • Step 4: Commit!

That’s really all I have for you! I hope you found this helpful and let us know what hobby you plan to pursue! Are you planning to use any of these steps?

Pamela definitely has inspired me to make a list of my hobbies and think about things that I would probably never do. I want to get out there and enjoy my hobbies but also try new things, maybe i’ll pick up a new hobby or even a new passion. You never really know until you try, that’s the thing! Don’t let fear and comfort hold you back from exploring the world because you could be missing out on a key ingredient to who you are meant to be or want to be in life by doing so.

I hope you all enjoyed this post and will consider trying these steps out. Let us know in the comments. I think following the steps would make a great post idea!💡💛

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The change is happening…

GoldenPinkJournal….

When I first created this blog and spent only about a day deciding on what exactly I wanted it to be about and the name, I thought I had chosen the perfect one! The one I would stick to forever and it would relate to me so well.

Well

That was true until a few weeks ago. Blogging had started to become a chore and I couldn’t figure out what was going on. I took a break off and came back thinking I would be recharged and back to normal.

Wrong.

I’ve still been way behind, and feeling the same. Like blogging is more of a chore because something was off and I was so unorganized. It came down to me realizing that I’m not as happy with my content clutter as I’m calling it anymore or about my name at all.

It has set me in a funk and I think it shows.

I do believe that my content is good and many people say they love it, but I also have to love it in order to keep putting it out there.

I found myself trying to come up with things just so I could have something to post every day, just so I could have constant content coming up in the reader so I could continue growing. Nothing is wrong with wanting to grow, nothing is wrong with blogging every day or 5 days a week but you have to be doing it for the right reasons. You have to be doing it because you’re passionate about it and what you write.

I was going to save all of this post for later but I’m tired of waiting and thinking. Remember I created this name in one day. The past few weeks I’ve been thinking about a new name and that itself tells me something. I haven’t changed my mind and decided to stay as GoldenPinkJournal yet and I know for fact I won’t be. So over it.

It doesn’t represent me in the way that I want it to and if you randomly came across it you would just think it’s a gold and pink notebook or something. I love the colors still, just not for a name.

Also, after finally sharing my pictures, telling one blogging friend my real first name, and even being comfortable enough to share myself singing with you all I realized I can just really be my true self. I don’t have to hide every single thing about me anymore. I’m ready to be more open with you all and myself. The next step will be with my family but that’s another story for another time.

So the big change will be that I will be starting over on a whole new blog…

 This was a very scary thought for me and still is because GoldenPinkJournal is now getting closer to 700 followers and I’ll have to gain all of that back again. I’ll have to get people familiar with my name again. But I’d rather start now than later when it would have maybe 1000 or more. Yes I could just change my name on this account but with doing that you have to change a lot of other things and redirect your traffic, etc. I wish it was as simple as changing a username but unfortunately it’s not. This is also why it is good to be 100% sure on your name before you start, which I thought I was. Oops. 

But we grow and with that comes change. We gain more knowledge and confidence and aren’t the same as we were when we first began unaware and afraid.

I know some may think this isn’t necessary, but it is to me. I’ve thought and fought with myself long about this. I know I may lose a lot of views but I’m gonna keep going. In time I’ll get them back. Half of me is excited about this change but the other half is freaking out not wanting to hit publish. I’m still going to. No turning back. Then I would really feel like I’ve made a mistake and lost my mind.

I will be keeping GoldenPinkJournal up and I will still be uploading for the next month, I will be doing the features for my 5 winners here still. But shortly after that my main blog will be the new blog. I have already picked names out and I will be working on the blog and building content over the next month. You may see the change on social media sooner than later. I’ve learned that names for social media go very quick!

I will be sure to follow you all on the new blog when the time comes and share the link here so more of you can find me. 

As I said, I am still here for the next month or so, so this is not my last post. Just an update and a heads up …and an I must be crazy but it must be done post. 

There are a few other reasons I decided to go with another name but I’m going to save that for my first post on the new blog. 

I’ll talk with you all tomorrow💛

Small Weekend Pickups + Updates✨

This was just going to be a few updates, but I decided to share my small weekend pickups also 🙂

On Sunday I went out in search for a few t-shirts and shorts, I’m in desperate need of new clothes for every season. I’m way too behind on shopping, but sometimes there are bigger things to worry about and there are priorities.

Since we’re on a budget I decided not to do a huge shopping spree at once but instead, a few items here and there until I have a few outfits at least. So here’s what I picked up this past Sunday


Another cute handbag🙂 You can remove the long strap which is great. This is the perfect size for me and I needed a new one because my old black bag was worn out. I can’t wait to switch over!

The last thing I picked up was…


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I really can’t wait to wear this dress! I saw it and my eyes lit up! They also had a gorgeous yellow one💛 I tried them both on but this was my favorite, I usually go for darker clothing which I keep saying I’m trying to step out of lol I’d definitely go back for the yellow though! I can’t wait to see what else I can find.

Now on to the updates:

I only have a few updates at the moment. I’m still thinking about things and working on having better structure so there may be updates scattered throughout the week or throughout the month just a heads up.

  • Expect to see Maggie on my blog this week. The next post featuring will be 7/5/17
  • My boyfriend is off work for the 4th and we will be out with family most of the day so I will not be posting. This also means that my Summer lyrics will be posted on the 5th
  • You may or may not catch me on social media but know that changes are happening there also
  • Words of the week? This is a series I’m not sure I will be keeping
  • I still will not be posting on the weekend (besides Short Story Saturday)
  • Fun Friday will continue 
  • I am extending my Summer Party Playlist Project. More on that later. So if you still want to participate you can☀️
  • I will be spending more time reading and commenting on your posts✨ I know I haven’t as much but it seems many of us are behind lately?

Those are all the updates I have for now. There will be more. 

Goodnight/Good morning whenever you are reading this💖


Is this the end? Goals and a sad June…

Last month I decided that every first of the month I would share my goals and things I NEED/want to accomplish. So how did the month of June go? Judging by the title not so well. I went into June thinking it was going to be great! I was having so many ideas, posting, working on projects etc… When I have my mind set on something I become focused on it, sometimes too focused that I put other things off to the side that I should really be working on. Often times I seem like this very positive influence, and that I can smile and be positive through all the negative things going on in my life or around me- issa trick! Don’t be fooled, on the inside i’m usually breaking down and freaking out trying to get me life and emotions together. I think many of us are like that? We don’t want to seem weak, we don’t want to feel vulnerable. Especially if you’ve given power to other people over your life for most of your life and let people walk all over you, if you let every situation bring you to your lowest point… That was me. It’s still me and i’m still working on it but things are getting a lot better. I’ve been working hard on my anxiety/depression, being more positive, standing up for myself and my beliefs, to just keep going but i’m still missing something. I’m still lacking something. Structure maybe? I feel like this month is going to be a shift for me… I just can’t really put my finger on what kind of shift yet. But I do know that I have been doing A LOT of thinking and reconsidering, that I feel my mind is pretty sure and set on some part of that “shift” or change. A change is coming. Something is ending. But when there is an end there is also a new beginning. 

Before I go any further into that. Let’s check out June’s sad goals:

This Month I NEED To:

✔️Pay bills (Yes and it’s time to pay them again. Yay..)

🌻Work on improving ways to Earn/Manage/Save money- I’ll call this mission EMS. Like “M’s” lol (EMS is not going so well, actually I forgot about it. Not that we need to manage better, just that I even made this whole thing)

🌻Get organized in general (Lacking so much organization right now; which is also why things will be ending soon)

🌻Continue consistent writing and posting (I’m always writing but I did take a well needed week off in June, maybe I needed longer?)

🌻Read more (Actually I read less)

🌻Go out more (Actually I went out less)

🌻Eat/Exercise better (Nope. That’s all I can say)

🌻Stay positive (It’s been a roller coaster)

This Month I WANT To:

✔️Change To Do List

✔️Change a few other things on my blog (Changed to do list, feature images, header etc… and now ready for an even bigger change after all of that work I put in)

🌻Work on EMS (We already found out this didn’t happen)

✔️Reach 500 WP followers (Some good news finally showing up, I reached 600)

🌻Reach 250 IG followers (Not quite but close, I currently have 219 but people follow and unfollow every day so.. ya know.)

🌻Reach 6,000 Twitter followers (nope, haven’t even been using it for blogging but currently at 5,927)

🌻150 WP posts (didn’t reach this goal in June due to my break but this post will be #149)

🌻Improve filming skills (haven’t been recording much lately)

🌻Go out more (I’ve had opportunities, but just haven’t been in the mood)

🌻Go swimming (nope)

🌻More DIY projects (nope)

🌻Cook/Eat healthier (nope)

🌻Get a planner/Start a bullet journal (started some type of “pre-planner” but only kept with it for like the first week)

✔️Stationary haul (I shared a few notebooks and folders if that counts)

✔️Summer clothing haul (shared a few summer pick ups, not really a haul but it can still count I guess)

🌻Finish reading Ruined (no, haven’t had any interest in reading that book lately)

🌻Go to Barnes & Noble and Books A Million (nope)

✔️Cool exciting summer posts June-July  (kind of?)

🌻Go to the dentist (nope)

✔️Hair journey post (towards the end of June or beginning of July) (Yes, did a whole week series!)

✔️Start a dream journal and be consistent (When I remember a dream I have been writing them down)

✔️Find new bloggers, and new music! (Yes I have)

🌻Write more/write my own summer jam😮 (have worked on it; not complete)

🌻Stay positive (again, it’s been a roller coaster)

Can you see how sad June was? Hope it was a lot better for you all! I have news that I need to share with you all but i’m not sure when. Maybe today, maybe not. But it’s in regards to this big change, shift, and ending. I just really need to gather my thoughts together at this point and figure out exactly what and how I want to go about things…

Stay tuned because as you know, in June I had my 500 follower Q&A Game and 5 winners to be featured on my blog. The first place winner is Maggie and she has worked on a great guest post that I can’t wait to share! Please bare with me during this next period of time because an end is coming but I don’t know where exactly time is taking me at this moment, nothing is set in stone. I appreciate everyone who has been a constant support I just ask that you keep that same amount of support with this change. Thank you for reading and I’ll be back shortly.

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Today’s To Do🌻 Another Quick List

Lately my To Do lists have been quick and to the point because I’m so busy trying to post, catch up on blogs, YouTube, and everything else. But our lists go on! Life doesn’t slow down because we have.

Here is today’s list:

✔️Feed/clean after pets

✔️Post my weekend pickups 

✔️Post hair products I use

✔️Post to social media

🌻View another Summer Party Playlist entry

✔️R/C/R (doing a few a day until I’m caught up enough)

🌻Edit/Upload video to pets channel

✔️Work on the rest of my Natural Hair Series

✔️Plan posts for my Q&A game winners (If you are one of the winners, email me if you’d like one of your 5 days to be a guest post)

🌻Work on my summer hit lyrics

✔️Delete some pictures

✔️Watch Pretty Little Liars final episode😩

✔️Watch the sunset

What’s on your list for the day? Have you already completed all your tasks?