Behind The Name: SheLivesLove💖

Choosing a blog name can easily be one of the best parts of starting your blog, but it can just as easily be the most frustrating process. Whether you are starting your blog for the first time, or rebranding, picking the best name is important. When I started GoldenPinkJournal, I didn’t know nearly as much as I do now and I also didn’t take the time to think it through to make sure that I was making the best decision for my blog. I’ve noticed so many other bloggers going through the same thing so I thought I would share my process of picking a good name and a few tips to help you with yours.

The first thing I did to start the process was deciding what my blog was all about. Will it be a lifestyle, beauty & fashion blog, or other? What topics will I blog about? Who will be your potential audience? What general message and feeling do I want readers to leave with? Can you see yourself still using the name years from now?
These are questions you can ask yourself as well. I wanted my blog to focus on lifestyle and inspiration, spreading positivity, and have readers leave feeling a love of life despite hardships, learn or be inspired to do something. My audience will mostly be women.

I then wrote down topics and words that relate to my blog, I also included some of my favorite words. A shortened list of words I wrote down:

  • Lifestyle
  • Life/Live
  • Love/Lovely
  • Inspiration/Inspire
  • Creativity
  • Discussions
  • Poetry
  • Flowers/Rose
  • Reverie
  • Her/She/Girl
  • Thoughts
  • Epiphany
  • Euphoria 
  • Eloquence
  • Luminary

Still pretty lengthy right?

After that list, I researched other blogs to see how their names were. I considered my actual name as I know that is a way some people brand themselves and really get themselves out there. During my research, I found many bloggers who do in fact use their name but also many that do not. Using your own name can be great depending on how long it is if it’s easy to remember, if it has a nice ring to it, and what your blog will be about. But if your name is something like Philanzio Amauiori (totally made this name up) or Ann Smith (this name is too common) you might want to consider something else. Readers won’t be able to remember your name easily, or it will already be taken. If someone heard it on the radio or on television would they know how to spell it? If you would have a problem with an employer or family member finding your blog you also should consider a different name.

I chose not to go with my name because I liked other names better and I didn’t want people confused on my middle name, Lecole [Lee-cole]. Some people don’t know how to pronounce it or would think it was my last name. I can just make sure that people associate my blog with it instead of using it as my domain. If I used my last name it would sound like any other common name but you can also think of alternatives. For example, Aimee [Ah-Mee] Song.  At first glance of Aimee, most people would think it is just another way of spelling “Amy.” Song is actually her last name, and her blog is named Song of Style. You could also do something like “LovelyLecole” “Phil Amour” “AnnAmazingLife” but I decided not to include my name. I wanted something sweet and easy to remember.

Popular blogger names I found and like are WishWishWish, GalMeetsGlam, TheSkinnyConfidential, The Everygirl, and pink Peonies.

By this time I was ready to start writing down a list of potential names for my blog. A few of the choices I came up with were LovelyReverie, LiveToInspire, ReverieInspired, and SheLivesLove.

One thing you should always do when choosing a name is checking to make sure the domain name and social media handles are available. This will help you eliminate some of the potential names in your list, you can also eliminate longer names and those that are your least favorite of course.

I noticed that on my social media accounts I always use the phrase “She is to love and be loved.” This is something I’ve always told myself since I was younger. I always had this feeling that part of my purpose in life is to spread a lot of love and inspiration to others, and in return be loved by a lot of people. This was perfect for the potential name on my list, sheliveslove! A great website that acts as a name generator and domain checker is bustaname.com. Try to list about 6 words to start seeing suggestions. Here I’ve included a screenshot example I’ve done:

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You may have to add several words before you get a good list of ideas unless you include your name. You can also click on the blue arrows to get more word suggestions.

 As for sheliveslove, I wanted to wait a while to see if my mind would change or any other names would come to me. I also checked to make sure the domain name and social media handles were available and I was good to go, other than a blank Instagram account which I didn’t see as too much of a problem since no one was actually using it. I just added an underscore to mine. If you have to do that with all or even most social media handles I would suggest going for another.

After weeks of deliberation, I decided this was the right name for me and thus sheliveslove.com was born!💖

Whatever you do, just don’t choose a name that can easily come off as something else like the names listed on this website for example:

30 Unintentionally Inappropriate Domain Names

One of them is “Penisland” (Pen Island) but some people could easily think that says… Well, what do you think? Lol.

There you have it. This is how I chose my new blog name, one that works so much better for me. How did you come up with your name? Can you add any tips? Comment below.✨

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Fun Friday #18: 20 Names I Love But Won’t Be Using!💖💙

Happy Fun Friday!

Yesterday I took a look at my very first Fun Friday post, which was name’s I love but wouldn’t use. I shared that list back in March and I’ve added so many names since then! I’m obsessed honestly, I have about 70 written down.

For today’s post I decided to do an updated version sharing 10 girl names and 10 boy names that I love but probably wouldn’t use as my future child’s name. The name “Mireya” was in my last list but I’ve actually grown to really like it, mainly for a middle name but I’d definitely consider using it now. Many of the names on my list sound similar or have an A beginning/end because those are the type of names I prefer. They are still very different. I’ve also added a few of their meanings:)

Here is my updated list:
GIRLS💖

Analise– Honestly, I adore this name but the main reason I wouldn’t use it is because the first 4 letters spell… Anal. Now, I don’t know if my mind is just in the gutter but I don’t want the first few letters of my child’s name to spell Anal. I think she would hate it, and I feel like some people would point it out and make fun of it. If I ever use this name I would spell it “Aunalise” Auna for short. MEANING: Grace or devoted to God.*I also like Aunalia.

Alara– I really like the sound of this name but couldn’t see myself using it. MEANING: One who brings brightness and happiness to the soul, to the heart.

Indya– This is one of the names I thought I would someday name my daughter. Spelled India or Indya but now I see it as too common. I’m also not really interested in country/continent names anymore like India and Asia.

Yara– I got this name from the beautiful actress and model Yara Shahidi. I just couldn’t see this as my daughters name. MEANING: On Nameberry, the meaning is “small butterfly”
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Melody/Harmony– I’m using these 2 as 1 because they are both musical names, beautiful musical names I must add. I wouldn’t completely knock them, If I had twin girls I would probably consider these names. Maybe they would be blessed with great singing voices? That would be lovely. But with me being picky again, I have to point out “Harm” being the first 4 letters of Harmony lol.

Lilia/Lylia– Like Lily, this sounds so pretty but even better in my opinion. Again, this is just a name I couldn’t see my own daughter having. 

Amberlee/Amberly– I started to like this name when I was in middle school or early high school days. It has a really pretty sound but the “Amber” is too common for me. MEANING: A jewel-quality fossilized resin; as a color the name refers to a warm honey shade.

Zuri– I first heard this name on Disney Channel on the show Jesse as Skai Jackson’s character and thought it was so beautiful! I only wouldn’t use this name because I’m not a fan of “Z” names for my own children. Guess what the meaning is??? MEANING: Beautiful

Hazel Won’t be using this name because it’s what I named one of my guinea pigs lol. Also because it’s a color. It’s also a type of tree and nut.

Aliza– I really love this name and the only reason I wouldn’t choose it is because I already know someone who named her daughter that. MEANING: Joy, joyful

BOYS💙

For the boy names most of these I wouldn’t choose only because there are other names I like better, or I couldn’t see myself using them.

Luca- I like how nice and short this name is, I just wouldn’t choose it for my son. MEANING: Bringer of light, Man from Lucania

Jeremiah– I like the sounding of Jeremiah, it’s just not for me.

Messiah– I love how powerful this name sounds. Probably because it’s pretty biblical. This name might be too much pressure though. MEANING: Annointed one

Eric– Another nice sounding short name. But this name is too common and also my ex’s name so that would be weird. MEANING: Eternal ruler

Tristan– I’m actually still on the fence about this name. Maybe I would use it, Maybe not. Who knows. I just know that I like it. As for the meaning, I saw several different meanings such as, a knight, tumult; outcry, bold, the loud one, lol… So I’m really not sure.

Antonio– This name probably isn’t as popular as it once was but it’s still kind of popular to me so I wouldn’t use it. Otherwise I really like it and would definitely consider it. MEANING: Worthy of praise; of value

Hendrix– I wouldn’t use this name for my son, it’s mainly a surname but I think it sounds really cool.

Malachi/Malakai– I’m not really a fan of M names for boys which is why I wouldn’t choose this name. It also sounds more like a pet name for a dog in my opinion. MEANING: My messenger/my angel

Kavan/Cavan– I just recently came across this name. I would probably use it for a middle name actually. MEANING: Handsome

Jahlil– Ever since I came across this name I’ve liked it. I only wouldn’t use it because I like other names better. But this could still very much be a possibility. I’m including it anyway:) MEANING: Great, Revered, Grand, Noble, Servant of the Majestic

That’s it! 20 names!
Do you like any of the names on my list? What is 1 girl and 1 boy name that would be on your list? Comment below.✨

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Are You Living, Or Simply Existing?

This is a question I’ve come across a few times in my life but never really stopped to actually think about it. Sometimes I question whether or not I’m on the right track or living up to my full potential. Sometimes I wonder why exactly I am here, why do I exist? But I never asked myself why I live. That’s probably because I haven’t really been living. Sure, I’m alive in the fact that i’m breathing and typing this but beyond that? I’ve also noticed that I am not the only one, I even see other bloggers having a difficult time lately. We’re all going through some serious life changes and discoveries (of both the world and ourselves).

Cherylene, who blogs at livingvsexisting has written a special guest post that couldn’t have come at a better time! I think we all will benefit from this post in some way so please take the time to read.

Living Versus Existing; Cherylene Nicholas

I believe there are three classifications of people in this world, the ‘living’, the ‘existing’ and the dead.

The ‘living’ take the life they have and make the most use of it. When you are living you are constantly moving, improving and learning. Persons who are ‘existing’ on the other hand are doing just enough to sustain life.

We do this when we go through our daily routines day after day with no real drive or sense of purpose other than to get through the day and hopefully not die while we do so. Our lives can and should be so much more than that.

Some may say to live you must exist and thus to exist is to live. However, although in theory this is true the reality is much different. Many of us go to work, manage families, balance resources, and do our best to take care of everyone else in our lives while inside we are struggling with our own internal issues.

How many of us eat but aren’t full, sleep but don’t rest, hear but don’t listen because we’re so busy trying to survive or play the balancing act with the issues in our lives? Marital issues, relationship drama, poor health, financial burdens, work stress, and so much more can have us distracted, depressed, stressed and unhappy. The challenges of being alive can get to us but how we choose to handle them is what separates the living from the existing.

Here are my Top 15 Signs you are ‘Living’ and not just ‘Existing’.  

1. You make time to pamper and treat yourself rather than list excuses why you should not.

2. You make time to do fun things with your family and friends. It is not just about work.

3. You do not allow the challenges that life brings your way to keep you down or depressed.

4. You are always seeking knowledge and wisdom in various areas of your life.

5. You are willing to try new things and explore new places.

6. You do not allow the word “No” to discourage you instead you use it as a motivator to find a solution.

7. You do not allow negativity to steal your joy.

8. You recognize that life is too short to waste it on negative thinking or negative people.

9. You strive to be positive in your thinking and your interactions.

10. You choose to enjoy the good moments; learn from the bad and move forward.

11. You recognize that you don’t exist in this world by yourself and thus you try to help others less fortunate than yourself whenever you can.

12. You recognize and accept that no one is perfect.

13. Your focus is on striving to be your best self and living your best life.

14. You do not leave your happiness to chance.

15. You recognize that true happiness comes from within and thus do not depend on others to make you happy.

Living versus existing is therefore a state of mind that you choose to manifest in your everyday life. Someone who is ‘living’ makes the decision to do more with the life they have and often push themselves to do more because they expect more. A person who is ‘existing’ settles in their thinking and accepts the shortcomings in their life because sometimes they have just lost the will to fight.

My life is not perfect but that does not deter me from wanting to make it better. No matter how tough or challenging things might be right now, believe me when I tell you things can get better. Assess, Review and Take Action.

Ask yourself, am I existing or living?

What is more important however is what are you going to do about it?

The main difference between life and death is that the living gets another chance to do things right while the dead have been taken out of the fight.

After reading this post and paying special attention to Chery’s 15 signs, I realize I definitely have some things I need to work on in order to actually live my life and not simply exist. Some of the statements on the list I have been neglecting and they are definitely a huge reason for some of my worse days. I can proudly say that I have already been working on this. What are your thoughts? Did this list get you thinking about your own life? Do you feel like you have truly been living? Comment your thoughts.✨
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10 Reasons Why I Might Follow Your Blog✨

Hey everyone! Today has been very busy for me but I’m still working on my to do list and I really wanted… to do this lol. So, here are my top 10 reasons why I may follow you…


1. You have a nice name/picture. Chances are, if your picture is blank or your name is something I can’t read or understand I won’t follow you.

2. You post regularly. If I’m going to follow a blog, I’m looking for consistency in the dates posted.

3. Your blog looks nice and organized. Not plain, or hard to navigate through. I can clearly see the follow button on mobile device. Variety of topics. Great design etc 

4. You engage with your readers and others you follow. This is a big one so make sure you’re not only engaging with me, but other bloggers you follow and who comment to you also.

5. Your posts are interesting. Not all based on facts, there’s some honesty and personality that can be seen through your writing.

6. You are kind to your followers and blog community. Again this is another big one. Just the other night I saw a terrible post someone made because they were angry that no one was liking or commenting on their posts (that if I’m going to be honest weren’t all that great to begin with) This persons words were so foul that I had to unfollow.

7. You have Social media platforms I can also follow you on.

8. I see your name often in awards/tags. If I am constantly seeing that you are nominated for awards or to do tags, there’s a high chance of me checking out and following your blog.

9. You use pictures. Now pictures aren’t a must, but if you never use them I probably won’t follow you. Sorry😕

10. Your blog is about positivity and inspiration☺️ there’s a high chance of me following you if your blog spreads positivity in any way✨

I hope you all enjoyed this list. What are some reasons you might follow someone’s blog? Leave a comment below.

Inspiration of the day✨

Everything takes time

You have gotta lose your pride

You have gotta lose your mind

Just to find your peace of mind

You have got to trust the signs

Everything will turn out fine

So ✨why aren’t you smiling?✨

Today’s inspiration comes from another song. This one is by Jhené Aiko, who happens to be one of my favorite female singers. Her music has inspired me in so many ways. I could name PLENTY of her songs that will mean something to you, yet it’s sad that she’s most known for the line “gotta eat the booty like groceries.” (Cringe)

This particular song, W.A.Y.S, I listen to any time I’m really feeling down and it always helps me get through whatever the situation is.

You may be going through a difficult time right now but know that in the end everything will be fine. All of what you’re going through serves a purpose- to teach you, help you mature and grow wiser, and to know yourself better. So smile through the good and the bad, and keep on going! Don’t let anything stop you or take your happiness away.

Listen to the song lyric video in the link below🤗

Jhené Aiko- W.A.Y.S🌼

Inspiration of the day✨

Today’s inspiration comes from a song I fell in love with, by a woman named Anhayla. The song is titled U.G.L.Y. 

If you’ve ever felt insecure or maybe you still do, if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt you weren’t good or pretty enough- This song is for YOU.


I know we’ve all dealt with insecurities at some point in our lives. We’re human.

But in order for anyone else to love and accept you for who you are, you have to love and accept yourself first. That’s when you respect yourself and know your worth. If you feel like/tell yourself you’re not good enough, you’ll act like you’re not good enough, you’ll be hurt and accept when someone else says those very things you already tell yourself. Remember we all have flaws. The mirror can be one of your worst enemies if you let it. So can television, social media, and magazines. 

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! 

Be true to yourself, and love yourself for who you were meant to be in this world. There is no one else exactly like you, embrace it.💖

Don’t hate or change it.

Anhayla- UGLY (Listen/Watch Here)

A Writer’s Worst Enemy

       Ugh! It’s Friday, I need to post something on my blog but what? I can’t think of a topic…Wait, maybe I can write about…Nah, I already did something like that. Hmmm… maybe- No, that’s not interesting enough nobody will want to read that, I don’t even know where to begin how would I start? WHAT IS GOING ON!? WHY CAN’T I WRITE? I’M SUPPOSED TO BE A WRITER! This is truly a writers worst enemy.

Suddenly, an idea  dawns on me and I know exactly what to do.

What is a writer’s worst enemy? In my opinion, and I’m sure many others would agree, is writer’s block. Yes, we’ve all been there. That moment where this intruder invades our creative minds and tries to take us out. Robbing and blocking our whole thought process and frustrating us so much that we may even question our talent and skills. We end up left with lack of inspiration, perfectionism issues, and doubt. So how do we protect our mind? How do we take out the enemy when he enters? I’ve got a few weapons and ammunition ready to share!

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  • Music- Try listening to some of your favorite songs or get inspired by new music. Write about the lyrics. What do the lyrics mean to you? Can it be interpreted in different ways?
  • Read a book. Read another chapter of a book you’re already reading or start on a new one. You can get inspired by the characters or seeing how the author writes. You can even do a book review.
  • Read other blogs. If you’re not doing this already…You should probably start lol. Seriously.
  • Watch TV. This is one that a few people say avoid, but I think it can be a great help if you don’t get stuck there all day lol. Like a book review, you can also do a movie or show review. Make a list of your favorites. Netflix/Hulu shows to watch? Watch the news, write about something going on.
  • Browse the internet/Social Media. Again, don’t get stuck there all day but there are plenty of ideas you can get from looking online, or even reading statuses. This is something I like to do when I’m in the mood to write poetry or lyrics. Twitter is a great place to read tweets and get inspired just for that lol.
  • Writing prompts- You can find a ton of writing prompts online, ask your readers for some or even come up with your own.
  • Q&As- Ask your readers to leave you questions about yourself, or your blog and answer them.
  • Planning- If you’re already planning and you get writer’s block, try to stop planning for a while and just write when it comes to you naturally. Write when you’re ready to, not because you put yourself on a schedule and feel forced to. If you don’t plan, try it out. You can start by writing a list of things you’d like to write about in future posts.
  • Story Time- Tell a story about a time something interesting happened in your life.
  • Switch your writing environment- Write in a notebook instead of computer or phone. Write in a different room or location. Go to the park. Which brings me to the next…
  • Go out- When I say go out, I don’t mean saying “f*ck this!” and go out to the club lol. Take a drive, go to a few stores, a book store. If you’re into fashion, go window shopping or actually shop to get your inspiration. Write about something new you picked up or saw. If you’re into poetry and music, go to an open mic night.
  • Write about those unsure topics. You know what i’m talking about, the topics you kind of want to get into but not sure if it will do well, if it will be too sensitive of a topic or whatever the case may be.
  • Read inspiring quotes.
  • Talk to yourself. Okay, I know this one sounds crazy but you’d be surprised with what kind of stories or ideas you come up with just saying exactly what comes to your mind, and how you’re feeling.
  • Create fun challenges for yourself and your readers. (Create a post without the word “it.” Create a post using a chosen word of the day) These are just a couple of examples.
  • Try not to worry so much about grammar at first or having a beginning, middle, and end. If you need to, start writing the middle or ending if you already have an idea of how you want that to go, let the rest come naturally.
  • Some people say you don’t overcome writers block by reading articles on how to but I say reading such articles can help more than you think. You get to see all the different tips and try out some you haven’t already. You may even get instantly inspired by a few.
  • Just write- If you do this, I recommend having a separate notebook just for drafts and brainstorming. Especially if you’re quite the perfectionist, I notice that whenever I attempt to “just write” I get more frustrated if it’s not going in the direction I like, and sometimes feel as though I’ve wasted a page so another tip is to use a pencil lol!

Is the enemy still standing? Comment below if you try one of these methods, or have already been doing so. Share some of your own weapons and ammunition with the rest of us! What tips/advice do you have?

Until next time, love Lee.