The Mystery Blogger Award

Hey all! I’m finally getting to another award. Awards pile in one after another don’t they? No complaints, this is another reason the WordPress community is so friendly and encouraging. Today, I’m going to be doing the Mystery Blogger Award for the first time:) Special thanks to Janah from Wander Summer for nominating me. Check out her blog if you haven’t already and give a follow. Make sure to read her About The Author section, it’s so nicely written! Also a huge thank you to Okoto for creating this award.

BLOG RULES:

  • Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  • Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well.
  • Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.
  • Answer the questions from the nominator.
  • Nominate 10-20 people.
  • Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog.
  • Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice.
  • Share a link to your best post(s).

THREE THINGS ABOUT MYSELF:

For some reason it’s always hard to come up with interesting facts about yourself lol, especially if you can’t remember if you’ve already told that fact. I’ll do my best…

  1. I wrote a rhyming short story (50 parts) a couple of years ago on Facebook and Wattpad that did pretty well. Thousands of people read this story, some are even waiting for me to do an update or put out a book. It’s only a draft but the full draft is complete. It’s not as inspiring as my other short stories I’ve posted, it has crime, love, foul language and maybe a few disturbing parts. But it does tell a story people can relate to, people can relate with the characters. It doesn’t end badly:) I may share it here one day.
  2. I once got in trouble in 3rd grade for selling bubblegum to classmates lol. I only got caught because a girl got mad I wouldn’t give her any for free, and decided to steal some from my lunchbox. Didn’t she know the saying nothing in life is free? I was hustling for my 50 cents a piece😂 The teacher had to get involved to find out why she was stealing. She also got in trouble and had to give my gum back, but I know she still kept a few pieces! I knew how much I had! Lol. Funny times.
  3. In 5th grade I was a talent show host (had to audition for this, I believe there was 2-3 of us that made it) We were told to wear something nice but I was a cheerleader and also had to participate in a cheer routine for the show. I hosted in my cheerleader outfit which teachers wasn’t so happy about. Shrugs. Didn’t they know I wasn’t a celebrity and had no practice or help changing quickly?

MY BEST POSTS:

Janah’s QUESTIONS:

  1. What’s the story behind your blog name? I actually did a whole post about this when I first started my blog:) Behind The Name although many people haven’t read it because again, it’s when I first started.
  2. What’s that one song you love to sing in the shower? I don’t normally sing in the shower lol. I have before but it’s been a while so I can’t remember any of the songs.
  3. What’s the first thing you would do during a zombie apocalypse? Honestly, probably freak out??? lol gather up some weapons, food, water, safe shelter. Call loved ones to see if they are okay, tun on the news lol IDK!
  4. Name the first thing that comes to your mind when hear the word misogyny. The First thing that comes to my mind is monogamy (I guess because they look and sound similar) they obviously have 2 very different meanings though.
  5. On a scale of 1 to 5 (1 being the highest, 5 the lowest), how good are you at Internet Slang? LOL IDK! Maybe 3 lol? Try to go in between there.

MY QUESTIONS:

  1. What’s the first color you think of when you think of Summer?
  2. How would you finish this sentence? “I suddenly hear my front door open, which is strange because I live alone and I had just locked the door minutes before. When I peep around the corner I _____________”
  3. Do you like brussel sprouts?
  4. What’s your thought on a Summer fling?
  5. If you HAD to switch lives with either Kim K, Kylie Jenner, Barak Obama, or Donald Trump, who would you choose? (You can not change their personality or life, you become them)

MY NOMINEES:

I am going to nominate only five blogs for now.

I hope to see your answers, but as always take your time and don’t feel obligated.💕

Dawn Dagger Challenge

Good morning everyone! I’ve got a lot to do today but I’m going to start with this tag. I was tagged by the lovely Elsie to do this challenge so a special thanks to her:) Check out her blog, I’m sure you’ll want to follow.💖

Rules: 

  • Answer the questions given.
  • Give 10 questions for your nominees.
  • Tag 1-10 people!

 

Elsie’s Questions:

1. Did you have a favourite childhood toy? What was it and do you still have it?

I actually can’t remember having a favorite childhood toy, so I definitely don’t still have it. I did enjoy those Bratz doll heads, and I had this Littlest Pet Shop Digital Pet key chain toy. It was like a game on a key chain. I loved it.

2. Do you sometimes prefer animals to humans?

If the human seems pretty cringe and evil, probably lol.

3. What was the first thing you thought of when you woke up this morning?

The first thing I thought of when I woke up was what I would eat for breakfast. I was pretty hungry. I think I’ll have some waffles or oatmeal after this.

4. What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?

Honestly, I couldn’t say. I don’t think I would eat a lot of things considered to be “weird”

5. What three words first come into your mind when you think of your blog?

Pink, Inspiring, Creative

6. If you could meet anyone in the world that you haven’t met before who would it be?

I think I’ve answered this question before and so far it’s still the same. Jhene Aiko. That’s my girl lol. I can imagine the vibes now. She once tweeted back to me, and has liked a few of my tweets to her, it made my day so I know that actually meeting her would be epic.

7. Can you say “red lorry, yellow lorry” repeatedly without saying it wrong and do you know any other tongue twisters?

This was so fun to try lol. Yeah, try. Because I messed up the second time. The tongue twister I thought of is, “Sally sells seashells by the seashore.”

8. Has a song ever been playing over and over in your mind? What was it?

I can’t think of just one. Any song that I really love will be stuck in my head for a while, until I get over the feeling/situation, or until I find a new song.

9. If you were given the opportunity to go to Mars would you go?

I’ve always been interested in space, especially the stars and planets. I think I would be a bit nervous and scared but I would definitely consider going.

10. If you could travel anywhere right now, where would you go?

I really want to go to Hawaii. I haven’t traveled much, which I plan and hope do at some point in life. But I think I would *start* with Florida since it seems I’m one of the few who hasn’t been there yet.

*Questions to my nominees:

  1. What is your favorite part of day- Morning, Noon, or Night?
  2. What movie or tv show have you recently watched that you would recommend to others?
  3. Waffles or pancakes?
  4. Oatmeal or grits?
  5. What is the first flower name that comes to your mind?
  6. What was the last blog reward/tag you’ve received? before this one.
  7. Do you watch any talk shows? Would you guest host on one?
  8. What did you do on your 21st Birthday? If you aren’t 21 yet, what do you want to do?
  9. What is one thing you hope to accomplish before tomorrow morning?
  10. How long have you been blogging?

I nominate (you don’t have to do this if you don’t want to): 

Hello It’s Jo

Lauzies Lifestyle

Of Lashes And Leith

A Farm Girls Life

The Beyoutiful Gal

Looking forward to reading your answers✨

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The Cramm Award

Hello blog world! I have been nominated for the Cramm Award, by the beautiful Laura at Lauzies Lifestyle. This is my first time being nominated for this award so it is a special honor for me to do this post. Thank you Laura! I recommend you all visiting her blog if you haven’t already.✨

Rules:

  • Mention the person who created this award with a link
  • Mention the person(s) who nominated you
  • Share three things that motivate you to blog
  • Share three people who inspire you to blog
  • Share one thing you hope to do to improve the world
  • Answer your challenge question(s)
  • Nominate other bloggers and give them a fun challenge question

This award was created by Liv at theCramm.

Three things that motivate me to blog:

  • Inspiration that is all around the world. There are so many inspiring things in the world, so much going on. This motivates me to blog because I know there will always be something to write about.
  • Being able to inspire others! This is a big reason for me. I’ve experienced a lot in life, as most of us have but it always makes me feel good inside when I can help or inspire someone in whatever way, through something that I love doing.
  • Every single person that reads, and comments on my posts! You all motivate me to continue what i’m doing and knowing that I’m on the right path. If it weren’t for all of you, I wouldn’t feel the need to post daily, or as frequently as possible. This is why we should all support each other more and not just constantly like a post. No one is motivated to be consistent if they don’t feel like anyone is really reading. Let’s answer each others questions, give each other tips, or even just letting a person know you really enjoy their content… Just some way to let the person know you’ve actually read can really go a long way.

Three people who inspire me to blog:

  • Okay, I know this first one might sound a little conceited, but I inspire myself to blog. I don’t have friends and family around me who are interested in the same things that I am, which results in not much support from that end. Reading, writing, seeking truth and knowledge has always been what I’ve loved to do most, all of which I can do here. Everything I am truly interested in can be found in the blogging world. And honestly, my mind just always amazes me.
  • Again all of you that read and comment, everyone that I follow. I cant thank and appreciate you all enough. This community has some amazing bloggers! I consider some of you as actual friends now and I hope that continues to grow.
  • My boyfriend. He just wants me to do whatever makes me happy and keeps me calm lol. He especially wants me to keep up with writing so he’s all for it. Any time I’m stressed and I want to put everything down, he always encourages me to pick a pen back up.

One thing to improve the world:

It’s all about inspiration and motivation here! I hope to improve the world through spreading love and all things positive. By making sure I am kind to others, making sure that I love myself for who I am and accept people for who they are, by not putting others down. We are influenced by who and what are around us, what we watch on television and see or post on social media. If my words and actions can inspire just 10 people, maybe those 10 people can inspire 10 more. The more positive influences we have in the world, the better the world can be.✨

My nominees:

Victoria’s Bubble

Dreaming Of Guatemala

Reflection Of Des

The Blog With All The Jazz

Sit Back And Just Live

Colors Of My Life

Laura’s question to me: What was your favourite childhood dessert or treat?

My answer: I’ve always loved fresh baked brownies with vanilla ice cream, or chocolate chip cookies with vanilla ice cream. I still do!

Question to my nominees:

If you had to choose to not blog for a month, or not read/comment on any ones blog for a month which would you choose and why?

That’s it for this award. I hope to see my nominees answers, but as always you do not have to do this post if you don’t want to. I still think your blog deserves the award💖


 

 

 

 

Fun Friday “Find It” Edition Answers!

Last Friday’s Fun Friday post was another fun game, “Find it” edition featuring my apartment living room. A few of you found majority of the items, but some were a little hard to find for most so here are the answers!


See the white car now? No?


Okay, how about now?!☺️

Here are the items to find that do not belong:

  • Kitchen pot
  • Air Freshener 
  • Xtra laundry detergent 
  • Toilet paper 

The toilet paper was hidden nicely☺️ and the air freshener blended in well next to the water bottle. Aha 


I really enjoyed creating this game and you all liked it as well so I will be doing another this Friday! This time it will be kitchen edition.

Enjoy your Easter Sunday!

Iridescent Dating👀🤔

Iridescent dating? What is that? Doesn’t iridescent mean luminous colors that seem to change when seen from different angles?

It sure does. Iridescent dating is my own play on words. It sounds a lot like interracial dating which is exactly what we’re going to be discussing. Interracial dating is when two people of a different ethnicity come together as a couple. Whether they are just seeing each other, with children, or actually get married, many people view interracial dating in different ways.

This is a poll I ran on twitter just last week. Out of 75 votes, 77% of people said that love is love. Meaning interracial dating is no different from any other type of dating. 7% said that it needs to stop, and the other 16% believes interracial dating is only the result of wanting mixed children. I do believe that SOME people do get with another person of a different race just to produce mixed children, because social media does have a way of making them out to be the “cutest babies” with the light skin, light eyes, and “good hair.” There are people who will say an African American who dates outside of their race is only trying to erase their “blackness.” Sadly, it is sometimes an identity insecurity but this isn’t true for ALL.

I’m actually in an interracial relationship at the moment (bwwm) and we’ve been together almost 2 years now. We’ve even dated in the past back in high school. Before we got back together I was actually with a black man and had that relationship not gone south I’d probably still be with him. Everything happens for a reason and you can’t help who you develop a strong connection with or who you fall in love with, it just happens. Running this poll I had no real expectations but I did predict that the first choice or last would be the majority vote. I was pleased that majority felt the same way, that love is love. We shouldn’t see color, what we should see or love about a person should always be what comes from the inside. Who that person is, who that person wants to be, how that person makes you feel is what should matter. After seeing the results I did wonder if there would be a different outcome if voters were 50 years old or older and honestly, I believe it would be. Slightly or dramatically? I can’t say.

Sometimes when my boyfriend and I go out in public I notice stares. Not many, but maybe 1 or 2 every now and then usually by an older white man, or younger black man. At first, I thought I was the only one to notice and I wouldn’t say anything because I didn’t want to sound crazy or seem like I was just looking for things to point out as a black women with a white man, but my boyfriend eventually noticed too- another older white man. Instead of keeping quiet about it, he made sure to say if he sees another person giving us a dirty look there’s going to be a problem. Of course I was glad to know he’d be willing to stand up for our relationship but I’d always try to avoid any confrontation. I secretly wonder what are going through these people’s minds when they see us together and give us dirty looks, I sometimes even wonder if the looks are only for me, is it my hair because I wear it in its natural state? Is it because my lips and nose are a little bigger, or that my skin is a little darker?

Things aren’t as bad as they were years ago, more people are coming together and seeing that we are all HUMAN regardless of what color you are or where you come from. It doesn’t matter if there are differences, the fact that we are all different in ways gives us a similarity. We have come a LONG way as a country and I feel proud to be a part of that but racism and discrimination is STILL alive today. I try my best to pay it no attention, I’ll continue to ignore the ignorance but it is an issue, it has always been an issue that needs to change.

I know that I’m beautiful, my relationship is beautiful an we’re happy in our iridescent relationship. That’s what matters.

What are your thoughts on interracial dating? Have you ever dated outside of your race? What was that experience like?

Until next time, love Lee.

Getting To Know Each Other: 5 Facts

IF YOU ARE READING, THIS SPECIFIC BLOG POST REQUIRES YOUR PARTICIPATION..

Hello lovely bloggers and readers!

I’ve been blogging for just a few days now, and already I’m starting to feel like I’m getting to know many of you just by reading your blogs and discussing topics in the comments. So far everyone has been very supportive, encouraging, and I feel so welcomed. As I mentioned in my very first blog post, you will get to know me more as time goes on, as long as you stick around of course.

With each post more of myself will be revealed, but I want to know you as well so how about we start with 5 facts?

I’ll answer mine here and you can answer yours in the comment section.

Lets go!

  1. Nickname: Lee, or Lele.
  2. Birthday or Zodiac Sign: My zodiac sign is Pisces. Which means my birthday will be coming soon!
  3. Song that inspires you/Song you love: Jhene Aiko- W.A.Y.S. (Why Aren’t You Smiling) I recommend this song to everyone, please go listen if you haven’t already!
  4. Favorite book: The Twilight Saga. My 9th grade English teacher actually introduced me to Twilight. He knew I loved reading and recommended it to me. At first, I didn’t think I would like it much but I was hooked within the first few pages and I was excited to find out that it was a series. I would read in class, on the bus, and at home until I got sleepy. I’d come to class the next day and he would always ask me if I was already on the next chapter or book. Then he told me they were making the movies, we both went to see them all. (not together of course lol) I’ll never forget him for that.
  5. Why you started a blog: I started blogging because I love anything that involves reading and writing. I would see other peoples blogs or see YouTube videos about it and wished it was something I was doing. Also because i’m usually shy and reserved, blogging, or just writing period allows me to be myself and pour my thoughts and feelings out freely. It also allows me to share the things that I’m interested in with other people who are interested in them as well.

Five facts, five questions answered. Feel like you know me just a little more? Now it’s your turn! Answer the same 5 facts questions about yourself in the comments below.

Until next time, love Lee.

The Dreaded Sex Talk: Some parents take it too far

Children are exposed to sex in some form more and more each day. Whether it be other family members, friends at school, or music and television, it’s everywhere. Naturally, parents want to be able to control how much their children are being exposed to and stop them from doing what everyone else is doing.

Growing up with only one parent present, that being my father, he had no choice but to be the one to give me…The dreaded sex talk. I can’t remember the first time he brought it up, I do remember him bringing it up quite often but when he found out I had a boyfriend in 10th grade was when it really began. It initially started with him telling me that I don’t have a boyfriend I need to break up with him immediately. This to me was unfair so I wasn’t willing to and I didn’t. That’s when I began to become more distant, sneaky and he soon realized he couldn’t keep me away from this boy so he started talking more. Now I don’t know how the talk went for you all, but my dad always made things very awkward. We could be in the car on our way to Walmart and out of nowhere he’d ask “Are you having sex yet?” Of course I always said no and for a while that was true but I just didn’t feel comfortable talking with him about that. He even went as far as asking if I, like other young girls liked “putting my mouth on it.” At that point I realized that was a conversation I never wanted to have with him or anyone else. Not even my sisters when he asked them to ask me if I was sexually active, and to give me the talk since I wouldn’t talk to him. Maybe it was just the way he approached it, or maybe it was just the fact that he’s my father. I would have rather had my mother have that talk with me.

I’m now 23 years old and sometimes he STILL finds a way to bring it up. Asking if i’m using protection, if i’m on birth control, and constantly telling me how men are as if I don’t already know by now. Eventually I did tell my sister I was no longer a virgin, after her asking again. I was relived that she didn’t judge me, had nothing negative to say, and spoke to me in a way that was more comfortable to me than my father. However, I still didn’t prefer talking to family about sex at all. If I was ever curious about anything I would go to google which can be misleading at times, but I would also talk to my close friends. Most of my friends were sexually active and would tell me about it anyway, I was actually one of the last to have that experience so it was a lot more natural for me to go to them. There’s also something about a strong friendship that’s a lot more comforting than any one else.

I don’t believe parents should stop talking to their children about sex because at the end of the day they care the most and are going to be the ones to give the best advice but, they should instead get to know their children more to find out the best way for that individual child. Everyone is different, what made me feel uncomfortable may not have made one of my sisters or someone else uncomfortable. Some people are just more open than others and nothing is wrong with that. You shouldn’t be upset or disappointed if your child doesn’t feel comfortable talking about something as personal as sex, just let them know they when they are ready and if they do get curious they can come talk to you at any time. It’s okay to tell them to be careful because there are STD’s, it’s okay to inform them about pregnancy but don’t be a pest. You don’t want your child to be resentful or rebellious which happens far too often, not just about sex. In my opinion, it’s going too far to constantly ask anyone personal questions. Ask or attempt to have the conversation a few times, after that leave it to the child to decide if he/she wants to discuss things more. Especially if they are old enough to make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes on their own, you can’t protect them from everything.


I often run polls on my Twitter account. Many to go with my blog, sometimes just for fun. On Monday, to go along with this particular blog topic, I Tweeted a poll (above picture) asking how many people were comfortable having “the talk” with their parents. My goal was to have at least 100 votes but that’s okay, the post received 67 votes. Of the 67 voters I can’t say how many were male or female, or their ages. My followers ages range from teenagers to young adults under the age of 30. As you see from the final results, 33% of voters said that they were comfortable talking with their parents about sex while a larger 67% said they wouldn’t be.

If you’re a parent, how did you go about having the talk with your child? Was it difficult? Were they open about it? If you’re not a parent how would you go about having the talk? Or how was it when your parents had the talk with you?

Until next time, love Lee.