Behind The Name: SheLivesLove💖

Choosing a blog name can easily be one of the best parts of starting your blog, but it can just as easily be the most frustrating process. Whether you are starting your blog for the first time, or rebranding, picking the best name is important. When I started GoldenPinkJournal, I didn’t know nearly as much as I do now and I also didn’t take the time to think it through to make sure that I was making the best decision for my blog. I’ve noticed so many other bloggers going through the same thing so I thought I would share my process of picking a good name and a few tips to help you with yours.

The first thing I did to start the process was deciding what my blog was all about. Will it be a lifestyle, beauty & fashion blog, or other? What topics will I blog about? Who will be your potential audience? What general message and feeling do I want readers to leave with? Can you see yourself still using the name years from now?
These are questions you can ask yourself as well. I wanted my blog to focus on lifestyle and inspiration, spreading positivity, and have readers leave feeling a love of life despite hardships, learn or be inspired to do something. My audience will mostly be women.

I then wrote down topics and words that relate to my blog, I also included some of my favorite words. A shortened list of words I wrote down:

  • Lifestyle
  • Life/Live
  • Love/Lovely
  • Inspiration/Inspire
  • Creativity
  • Discussions
  • Poetry
  • Flowers/Rose
  • Reverie
  • Her/She/Girl
  • Thoughts
  • Epiphany
  • Euphoria 
  • Eloquence
  • Luminary

Still pretty lengthy right?

After that list, I researched other blogs to see how their names were. I considered my actual name as I know that is a way some people brand themselves and really get themselves out there. During my research, I found many bloggers who do in fact use their name but also many that do not. Using your own name can be great depending on how long it is if it’s easy to remember, if it has a nice ring to it, and what your blog will be about. But if your name is something like Philanzio Amauiori (totally made this name up) or Ann Smith (this name is too common) you might want to consider something else. Readers won’t be able to remember your name easily, or it will already be taken. If someone heard it on the radio or on television would they know how to spell it? If you would have a problem with an employer or family member finding your blog you also should consider a different name.

I chose not to go with my name because I liked other names better and I didn’t want people confused on my middle name, Lecole [Lee-cole]. Some people don’t know how to pronounce it or would think it was my last name. I can just make sure that people associate my blog with it instead of using it as my domain. If I used my last name it would sound like any other common name but you can also think of alternatives. For example, Aimee [Ah-Mee] Song.  At first glance of Aimee, most people would think it is just another way of spelling “Amy.” Song is actually her last name, and her blog is named Song of Style. You could also do something like “LovelyLecole” “Phil Amour” “AnnAmazingLife” but I decided not to include my name. I wanted something sweet and easy to remember.

Popular blogger names I found and like are WishWishWish, GalMeetsGlam, TheSkinnyConfidential, The Everygirl, and pink Peonies.

By this time I was ready to start writing down a list of potential names for my blog. A few of the choices I came up with were LovelyReverie, LiveToInspire, ReverieInspired, and SheLivesLove.

One thing you should always do when choosing a name is checking to make sure the domain name and social media handles are available. This will help you eliminate some of the potential names in your list, you can also eliminate longer names and those that are your least favorite of course.

I noticed that on my social media accounts I always use the phrase “She is to love and be loved.” This is something I’ve always told myself since I was younger. I always had this feeling that part of my purpose in life is to spread a lot of love and inspiration to others, and in return be loved by a lot of people. This was perfect for the potential name on my list, sheliveslove! A great website that acts as a name generator and domain checker is bustaname.com. Try to list about 6 words to start seeing suggestions. Here I’ve included a screenshot example I’ve done:

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You may have to add several words before you get a good list of ideas unless you include your name. You can also click on the blue arrows to get more word suggestions.

 As for sheliveslove, I wanted to wait a while to see if my mind would change or any other names would come to me. I also checked to make sure the domain name and social media handles were available and I was good to go, other than a blank Instagram account which I didn’t see as too much of a problem since no one was actually using it. I just added an underscore to mine. If you have to do that with all or even most social media handles I would suggest going for another.

After weeks of deliberation, I decided this was the right name for me and thus sheliveslove.com was born!💖

Whatever you do, just don’t choose a name that can easily come off as something else like the names listed on this website for example:

30 Unintentionally Inappropriate Domain Names

One of them is “Penisland” (Pen Island) but some people could easily think that says… Well, what do you think? Lol.

There you have it. This is how I chose my new blog name, one that works so much better for me. How did you come up with your name? Can you add any tips? Comment below.✨

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From Old Hollywood To Now: The changing game of fame✨

I remember the first dream job I ever had was to be an actress. I was in 3rd grade at the time and I wanted to be just like the actresses on TV, especially the Disney stars. It looked like so much fun, they looked like they were living the life.

I then wanted to be a singer (I wasn’t blessed with the voice but it was still a dream) I wanted to be like Beyonce’, Mariah Carey, or even the cheetah girls lol there were so many beautiful singers and girl groups that inspired me. Then I wanted to be a famous author writing books, scripts, poetry, and song lyrics.
That part hasn’t changed since. But now I’m more focused on kind of branding myself but not as just an author, or singer, etc. Back then it seemed like a dream that was only 1 in a million, but now it seems that even “15 minutes of fame” has become a bit easier to achieve. At a young age I wanted to live the luxury life of a celebrity without fully understanding that it isn’t as perfect of a life as it seems. Many of us would love to achieve some type of fame whether we admit it or not. With all of the aspiring musicians, models, actors, authors, even YouTubers it seems quite evident. We make goals to reach a certain amount of followers, likes, views, compliments etc.
No I’m not saying fame is the reason we all do certain things, but it has at the least crossed our minds and most of us wouldn’t turn it down. But many things come with a price, including fame.

From Old Hollywood To Now: The changing game of fame
Guest post by Laura from Lauzie’s Lifestyle

“Fame, I’m gonna live forever”

In a society that depicts fame as the ultimate “American Dream”, more and more of us are reaching for the dizzying heights of stardom. Since the burst of reality T.V and the wave of social-media, receiving a slice of fans and wealth through promotion suddenly seems to be in reach.

We have come a long way from the days of Old Hollywood, where studios had full control of their stars. You could hire an agent, but once you signed a contract, you almost signed over your life. Studio bosses were dominant men who decided on everything from your name, appearance, representation and what movies you had to star in.

Rita Hayworth is a classic case of a Golden Age icon that had to change her entire look, to appear less ‘Latin’. This included hairline electrolysis and red hair dye routinely. Another very famous case is Marilyn Monroe, who dyed her hair blonde and reportedly underwent minor nose and chin surgeries.

Fast-forward to now and we proudly confess to our own marketing. We have created new categories, everything from ‘reality stars’, ‘Instagram famous’ and even ‘micro-influencers’ – people who have around 10k+ following. We proudly applaud and consider it a success, if our videos go viral and have views in the midst of thousands.

It all comes across as perfect; wealth you could only imagine, freebies that you could never afford, adoring people ready to tell you how incredible, beautiful and wonderful you are, at any given moment. Not forgetting, the parties, events and lifestyle that you could lead.

However, the phrase “some things never change” certainly applies to the rich and famous. Drugs, alcohol, breakups, sex, meltdowns and overdone plastic surgery in a bid to stay youthful, continues to be alive and kicking. Considering that I am ‘normal’, I can only do so much analyzing from the outside world. But looking in, I would suggest that the pedal-stools that they are placed upon come with the hefty tag of maintenance.

Going into fame, it is easy to view how amazing they must feel. Perhaps they expect sheer happiness; a fish being watched in a fishbowl – only that fishbowl is everything that we are told is worthy and desired. It is almost comparable to being told that you will be trapped – people will try to exploit you at any given moment, but by being trapped, you have everything that you could ever wish for.

When discussing modern-day fame, the Kardashians have to be mentioned. They emphasise our love of purely being a ‘somebody’. You no longer choose acting, singing or modelling etc, but rather what your image will be and what kind of brand you would like to aspire too.

We need some fame credibility though. In this fame obsessed world, in order to be a successful blogger, writer, artist or even generally successful – how many jobs now ask you to be social-media savvy? – We need to build up our following. Personally, I would appreciate a minor-level of recognition. To gain the ability to attend lavish evenings, be offered free-gifts and yet still walk the streets without an awakening of paparazzi.

What are your views? How much fame could you handle and do you like where fame is heading? Comment your thoughts below.✨

Header image is a picture of Laura, her latest Instagram post.

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15 Signs You Might Be A Mom✨

Okay, I’m not a mother. I hope to be one day, but if I’m not a mother how can I come up with 15 signs one might be one???

The short answer to that is… I didn’t. Dakota did, from Essential Living With Dakota.💙
Dakota is the mother of 3 boys and she created this list herself, the list is actually longer but I’ve picked out 15 favorites that I definitely believe to be true by what I’ve seen so far in my own family, and with some of my friends. Here are the 15 I chose:

  1. Sleeping in feels like winning the lottery.
  2. Wearing leggings and an over sized shirt counts as dressing up.
  3. You use baby wipes to clean everything.
  4. You’re eating alone because everyone else has finished and left the table when you are finally able to sit down to eat.
  5. Your purse is full of legos and matchbox cars.
  6. You can no longer pee, or uhh #2, alone.
  7. It’s normal to smell another child’s butt to see if they were the ones who pooped.
  8. You have to say ‘do you want me to pull this van over!?’ before they know you mean business.
  9. You hear ‘Mommmmm’ at least 10 times before you even think about responding.
  10. You’re watching Disney movies and the kids have all gone to bed.
  11. You walk around with pieces of their breakfast on you and you don’t realize (or care)
  12. You can’t put on makeup without hearing ‘Do mine, Mommy! Do mineeee!’.
  13. You carry around a first aid kit at all times. Oh, and a snack kit.
  14. You hide in a closet to eat a piece of candy without having to answer a million questions.
  15. You feel so much love for such tiny creatures that simply looking at them brings a tear to your eye and you feel like your heart could burst watching them achieve such incredible things.

Now I don’t know about you, but parent or not I can relate to every single one of these in some way with someones kid in my family lol especially when you babysit. 

Can you agree? What other signs can you come up with?

If you want to view Dakota’s full list, click here. Be sure to give a follow if you like. Thanks for stopping by.✨

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Exploring A Bloggers Instagram✨

It’s always great discovering new bloggers, but it’s even greater when you get to know them more through their blog posts and pictures, especially on social media.
Today we will be exploring Dakota’s Instagram. I’ll be sharing some of my favorite pictures from her page:) Dakota blogs at Essential Living With Dakota so be sure to check her out and follow.

Now, let’s check out her Instagram:

If you read her introduction post from yesterday, you already know that Dakota is a wife, mother of 3 boys, and a Young Living Essential Oil enthusiast.


This little visitor is adorable can you agree?💛
Family time is always something to cherish. The boys facial expressions are perfect! Lol.

Dakota’s family has been remodeling their home and the story behind this photo is that Dakota came home that morning and saw this on a 2×4 that was getting taken out the following week. Her son Benjamin wrote it, they’ve always told each other “I love you to the moon and back.”
When kids insist on helping with laundry😂

This is one of those moments I’d love to experience when I have kids someday. Relaxing in the backyard, enjoying life and nature as they play.

I can admit that this is literally the cutest, sweetest picture and quote I’ve seen all day. I love it!💙

This looks great! I’d definitely enjoy this ice cream for breakfast any day lol.
Wonderful mom precious moments. That’s what this picture says to me.

If you’ve followed Dakota’s blog, go ahead and follow her Instagram also. Right now she has 175 pictures so she’s very active and consistent. You won’t be disappointed adding her to your feed.✨

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This Q&A Gets Interesting!☺️

Today I woke up feeling much better than yesterday and I couldn’t be happier about it. Of course I’m still dealing with and working on things but I don’t feel completely down. Yay for me and please stay for me! Word to brighter days.

As you all know, I’ve been doing these fun interviews with a few bloggers (the 5 that won my 500 follower Q&A Game). This week I’m featuring Cherylene from livingvsexisiting and today I’ll be sharing just how fun and interesting this interview got 😉

I’ve been coming up with questions/tasks that relate to the blogger or their blog, and questions they may have never been asked before to make it more interesting. Let’s see what questions I came up with for Cherylene and how she responded☺️

Questions for Cherylene (her answers are in italics)

1. Name 3 things that rhyme with love.
Three things that rhyme with love – dove, glove and shove.

2. If you had to choose a different name for your blog, what would it be?
If I had to choose a different name for my blog, I would probably call it Chery’s Perspective.
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Ooh I like that Chery!*

3. What is the healthiest thing you’ve eaten today?
Fruits – watermelon slices with an orange and a small portion of grapes to be exact.

4. What are the first 7 words to the last song you listened to?
“Even if we can’t find heaven, heaven” – from the song Stand By You by Rachel Platten.
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This sounds beautiful.*

5. Would you rather have nightmares every night for the next 5 months, or never be able to dream again?
Those options aren’t all that great. I’ll have to pass on the 5 months of nightmares and settle for never being able to dream again. I would settle for a peaceful night sleep any day! 

6. If you had to choose one or the other for a pet, which would it be: Spider or snake?
Lee, why are you doing this to me? No fish, puppies girlfriend even an ant farm had a better chance at ending up at my house. I’ll take the spider.
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LOL! I apologized for putting her in this horrible situation but I knew she had never been asked this before… “No fish, even an ant farm”😂*

7. Can you remember a line you’ve used from any of the rap battles you’ve had with your son?
We usually just rap off the top of our heads but let’s see, ok here’s one. “You think you’re so cool trying to play me for a fool but you know little boy that just not cool. I’m going to show you that mummy still rules!!!!” We just have fun with it going until someone can’t flow or gives in. We both enjoy them.
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I love this!:)*

8. When was your last fun family outing?
Our last fun family outing was a trip to the mall on Tuesday. The kids were financially rewarded for doing well in exams so they got a mini shopping spree.
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Good for them! They definitely deserve the reward:)*

9. Is there a song that can always put you in a great mood or make you want to dance?
“Can’t Stop The Feeling” by Justin Timberlake
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Great song choice!*

10. What is your favorite thing about summer and your favorite thing about winter?My favourite thing about summer is that here in Trinidad we get that type of weather most of the year outside of the rainy season. Winter is not something I’ve had the opportunity to fully experience but I love the idea of being able to play in the snow.
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Wow! I hope you’re able to experience playing in the snow one day. The snow to me is what makes winter so beautiful.*

11. What is the first thing you can think of that is the color blue (other than the sky or ocean)
Oh that’s easy, my navy blue Toyota Collora.

12. Name 5 things you must have in your dream home.
Five things I must have in my dream home include:

1. Smart home devices for various parts of my home.

2. Mini Movie Theatre so the family and I can watch movies on a big screen.

3. Walk-in closets for each bedroom.

4. Self-cleaning pool

5. Lots and lots of storage.
Lee, I forgot to ask who was paying for all of this.
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Hmmm? Maybe one day we will both become financially able to fulfill these dreams lol.*

13. Mango or avocado: which do you like best?
Avocado hands down. I can eat it with almost anything and by itself.
*Can you believe I have never tried avocado?*

14. Would you prefer cloud watching or stargazing?
Although there is beauty to be seen both at day and at night I think I would go with cloud watching because the clouds change shape and sometimes you can see different images. I think that’s amazing and fun.
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Definitely agree that there is so much beauty in both. I’d love to stargaze as much as I cloud watch.*

15. Can you draw a tree, an umbrella (because I noticed you like the rainy season) and 2 identical things of your choice (it can be 2 hearts, 2 people, whatever you choose) the drawings don’t have to be perfect this is just for fun. Please take a picture of your drawings and attach.


Okay, can we talk about how cool Chery’s drawing is?! I love the palm trees and the 2 cars on the road. You’re really creative and definitly have an artistic ability. I enjoyed this whole interview and I’m glad you did too! I also love the bit of your personality I’ve learned through the interview and behind it:)

If you like Chery’s drawing let her know in the comments. What question and answer did you find the most interesting? Did you relate/agree to any? Comment below.✨

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How To Accessorize Natural Hair💛🌸

Happy Fun Friday lovelies! This whole week has been fun doing this Natural Hair series, tomorrow is the last day of the series and I will be sharing the story of my own natural hair journey. I’m excited and I can’t wait.
As you know I’ve been on my journey for a year now, yesterday was the exact day.
So far I’m loving every moment, sure there are ups and downs but I have no regrets!

Today I’m going to be show you some cute ways you can accessorize your hair, and ways to rock your short TWA (teeny weeny afro)

Accessories are the key to rocking short hair, especially earrings since you’ll definitely be able to see them. You can try rocking bigger, bolder earrings or cute studs. Either way will make a nice difference in dressing up your twa or short hair. Dressing up the neck is also a good tip. Here are some of my favorite earrings, necklaces, and chokers:

img_7347I usually go for gold and silver because I can pair them with anything. I do plan to go for more color this summer.

Another thing (if you’re into it or interested) is makeup. Shorter hair brings out your lovely facial features, you can play around with different looks to enhance your natural beauty. I’m not really into makeup so I never learned how to apply it either lol, still not interested in learning. I just wear lipstick and clean up my eyebrows when I want to dress up a little more so that’s another option if you’re like me.

You can also accessorize your hair with headbands and hair pins. Below are some of my favorite headbands and hair pins. The flower headband was actually a DIY I did probably about 6 months ago honestly. The flowers were white at the time lol now they have some purple tint. I have no clue where it came from, when I unpacked after moving to the new apartment that’s what I saw. I’m definitly going to make more soon using flowers that look a little more realistic. These are so cute for spring and summer! I got them all from Hobby Lobby.

Glasses are also a great accessory! 🙂 That’s perfect if you already wear prescription glasses.
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Flowers and flower headbands are my favorite ways to accessorize hair, it always looks so cute! I can’t wait to rock the style more this summer🌸

Is this sunset inspired?!


How cute?!?!? And look at those pick earrings! (blackbeautyandhair.com)

Zoella; above image

How cute are the starfish hair pins?!

The last thing you need to accessorize any style is- C O N F I D E N C E ! 💛

What’s your favorite ways to accessorize your hair? Which of these are your favorite?Will you be trying any? Comment belowimg_5723-3All of the images of these beautiful women were found on Tumblr, Pinterest, YouTube, Google search.

Hair Porosity???🤔

Hair porosity is how well your hair absorbs and retains moisture. Knowing your hair porosity can be very important especially for natural hair to know how you can properly keep your hair moisturized, and know what methods and products to use.

Knowing your hair porosity will allow you to maximize the benefits from your conditioning products. There is low, normal, and high porosity. 

Here are a few ways you can test what your hair porosity is:

(Please note that the hair should be freshly cleansed, no product on the strands for accurate results)

The Float Test

  • Fill a glass of with room temperature water
  • Take a couple of strands from your clean hair and put them in the water (do not push down)
  • Watch and wait for a few minutes 
  • After 4-5 minutes of your hair is still floating on the top of the water, you have low porosity. Low porosity means it’s a bit harder for your hair to absorb moisture. The cuticles are closed so moisture does not enter easily.
  • If your hair slowly sinks/stays in the middle you have normal porosity. Normal porosity is usually ideal because it absorbs and holds moisture well
  • If your hair sinks immediately you have high porosity hair. High porosity means that your hair absorbs moisture quickly, but can also lose it quickly

The Slide Test

  • Using a strand of your hair, starting from the end, slide your fingers up the hair shaft
  • If it feels bumpy you have high porosity 
  • If it feels smooth you have medium-low porosity 

The Spray Test

  • Section your hair and spray a section with water (you don’t have to drench it)
  • If the water sits on the hair or beads up you have low porosity 
  • If your hair absorbs the water quickly you have high porosity 
  • If the water sits for several minutes then absorbs you have normal porosity 

Care For  Low & High Porosity:

Please know that I am no expert but I’ve done a lot of research and trial with my own hair. Also, everyone’s hair is different so some things might work for ones low porosity hair that usually doesn’t for most, the same with high porosity. The tips below are general tips for each type.

Low Porosity:

  • Use low heat to open cuticles for moisture to be let in. You can begin washing your hair in warm water, or deep condition under a hair dryer (with plastic cap) heavier products just sit and weigh the hair down
  • Use lighter products and oils like Argan, and grape seed oil
  • Make sure you keep the hair free of a lot of build up which can also block moisture

High Porosity:

  • Heavy products like creams and hair butters are great for high porosity 
  • Heavy oils like castor oil, jojoba, coconut
  • Protein is good for the hair but not too much! Start out trying protein treatments/masks or products with protein once a month. I think that more than twice a month is too much.
  • Deep conditioning is good for all hair

If you have normal porosity, keep doing what you’re doing. Deep conditioning when needed, regularly.

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