Exploring A Bloggers Instagram✨

It’s always great discovering new bloggers, but it’s even greater when you get to know them more through their blog posts and pictures, especially on social media.
Today we will be exploring Dakota’s Instagram. I’ll be sharing some of my favorite pictures from her page:) Dakota blogs at Essential Living With Dakota so be sure to check her out and follow.

Now, let’s check out her Instagram:

If you read her introduction post from yesterday, you already know that Dakota is a wife, mother of 3 boys, and a Young Living Essential Oil enthusiast.


This little visitor is adorable can you agree?💛
Family time is always something to cherish. The boys facial expressions are perfect! Lol.

Dakota’s family has been remodeling their home and the story behind this photo is that Dakota came home that morning and saw this on a 2×4 that was getting taken out the following week. Her son Benjamin wrote it, they’ve always told each other “I love you to the moon and back.”
When kids insist on helping with laundry😂

This is one of those moments I’d love to experience when I have kids someday. Relaxing in the backyard, enjoying life and nature as they play.

I can admit that this is literally the cutest, sweetest picture and quote I’ve seen all day. I love it!💙

This looks great! I’d definitely enjoy this ice cream for breakfast any day lol.
Wonderful mom precious moments. That’s what this picture says to me.

If you’ve followed Dakota’s blog, go ahead and follow her Instagram also. Right now she has 175 pictures so she’s very active and consistent. You won’t be disappointed adding her to your feed.✨

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This Q&A Gets Interesting!☺️

Today I woke up feeling much better than yesterday and I couldn’t be happier about it. Of course I’m still dealing with and working on things but I don’t feel completely down. Yay for me and please stay for me! Word to brighter days.

As you all know, I’ve been doing these fun interviews with a few bloggers (the 5 that won my 500 follower Q&A Game). This week I’m featuring Cherylene from livingvsexisiting and today I’ll be sharing just how fun and interesting this interview got 😉

I’ve been coming up with questions/tasks that relate to the blogger or their blog, and questions they may have never been asked before to make it more interesting. Let’s see what questions I came up with for Cherylene and how she responded☺️

Questions for Cherylene (her answers are in italics)

1. Name 3 things that rhyme with love.
Three things that rhyme with love – dove, glove and shove.

2. If you had to choose a different name for your blog, what would it be?
If I had to choose a different name for my blog, I would probably call it Chery’s Perspective.
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Ooh I like that Chery!*

3. What is the healthiest thing you’ve eaten today?
Fruits – watermelon slices with an orange and a small portion of grapes to be exact.

4. What are the first 7 words to the last song you listened to?
“Even if we can’t find heaven, heaven” – from the song Stand By You by Rachel Platten.
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This sounds beautiful.*

5. Would you rather have nightmares every night for the next 5 months, or never be able to dream again?
Those options aren’t all that great. I’ll have to pass on the 5 months of nightmares and settle for never being able to dream again. I would settle for a peaceful night sleep any day! 

6. If you had to choose one or the other for a pet, which would it be: Spider or snake?
Lee, why are you doing this to me? No fish, puppies girlfriend even an ant farm had a better chance at ending up at my house. I’ll take the spider.
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LOL! I apologized for putting her in this horrible situation but I knew she had never been asked this before… “No fish, even an ant farm”😂*

7. Can you remember a line you’ve used from any of the rap battles you’ve had with your son?
We usually just rap off the top of our heads but let’s see, ok here’s one. “You think you’re so cool trying to play me for a fool but you know little boy that just not cool. I’m going to show you that mummy still rules!!!!” We just have fun with it going until someone can’t flow or gives in. We both enjoy them.
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I love this!:)*

8. When was your last fun family outing?
Our last fun family outing was a trip to the mall on Tuesday. The kids were financially rewarded for doing well in exams so they got a mini shopping spree.
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Good for them! They definitely deserve the reward:)*

9. Is there a song that can always put you in a great mood or make you want to dance?
“Can’t Stop The Feeling” by Justin Timberlake
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Great song choice!*

10. What is your favorite thing about summer and your favorite thing about winter?My favourite thing about summer is that here in Trinidad we get that type of weather most of the year outside of the rainy season. Winter is not something I’ve had the opportunity to fully experience but I love the idea of being able to play in the snow.
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Wow! I hope you’re able to experience playing in the snow one day. The snow to me is what makes winter so beautiful.*

11. What is the first thing you can think of that is the color blue (other than the sky or ocean)
Oh that’s easy, my navy blue Toyota Collora.

12. Name 5 things you must have in your dream home.
Five things I must have in my dream home include:

1. Smart home devices for various parts of my home.

2. Mini Movie Theatre so the family and I can watch movies on a big screen.

3. Walk-in closets for each bedroom.

4. Self-cleaning pool

5. Lots and lots of storage.
Lee, I forgot to ask who was paying for all of this.
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Hmmm? Maybe one day we will both become financially able to fulfill these dreams lol.*

13. Mango or avocado: which do you like best?
Avocado hands down. I can eat it with almost anything and by itself.
*Can you believe I have never tried avocado?*

14. Would you prefer cloud watching or stargazing?
Although there is beauty to be seen both at day and at night I think I would go with cloud watching because the clouds change shape and sometimes you can see different images. I think that’s amazing and fun.
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Definitely agree that there is so much beauty in both. I’d love to stargaze as much as I cloud watch.*

15. Can you draw a tree, an umbrella (because I noticed you like the rainy season) and 2 identical things of your choice (it can be 2 hearts, 2 people, whatever you choose) the drawings don’t have to be perfect this is just for fun. Please take a picture of your drawings and attach.


Okay, can we talk about how cool Chery’s drawing is?! I love the palm trees and the 2 cars on the road. You’re really creative and definitly have an artistic ability. I enjoyed this whole interview and I’m glad you did too! I also love the bit of your personality I’ve learned through the interview and behind it:)

If you like Chery’s drawing let her know in the comments. What question and answer did you find the most interesting? Did you relate/agree to any? Comment below.✨

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How To Accessorize Natural Hair💛🌸

Happy Fun Friday lovelies! This whole week has been fun doing this Natural Hair series, tomorrow is the last day of the series and I will be sharing the story of my own natural hair journey. I’m excited and I can’t wait.
As you know I’ve been on my journey for a year now, yesterday was the exact day.
So far I’m loving every moment, sure there are ups and downs but I have no regrets!

Today I’m going to be show you some cute ways you can accessorize your hair, and ways to rock your short TWA (teeny weeny afro)

Accessories are the key to rocking short hair, especially earrings since you’ll definitely be able to see them. You can try rocking bigger, bolder earrings or cute studs. Either way will make a nice difference in dressing up your twa or short hair. Dressing up the neck is also a good tip. Here are some of my favorite earrings, necklaces, and chokers:

img_7347I usually go for gold and silver because I can pair them with anything. I do plan to go for more color this summer.

Another thing (if you’re into it or interested) is makeup. Shorter hair brings out your lovely facial features, you can play around with different looks to enhance your natural beauty. I’m not really into makeup so I never learned how to apply it either lol, still not interested in learning. I just wear lipstick and clean up my eyebrows when I want to dress up a little more so that’s another option if you’re like me.

You can also accessorize your hair with headbands and hair pins. Below are some of my favorite headbands and hair pins. The flower headband was actually a DIY I did probably about 6 months ago honestly. The flowers were white at the time lol now they have some purple tint. I have no clue where it came from, when I unpacked after moving to the new apartment that’s what I saw. I’m definitly going to make more soon using flowers that look a little more realistic. These are so cute for spring and summer! I got them all from Hobby Lobby.

Glasses are also a great accessory! 🙂 That’s perfect if you already wear prescription glasses.
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Flowers and flower headbands are my favorite ways to accessorize hair, it always looks so cute! I can’t wait to rock the style more this summer🌸

Is this sunset inspired?!


How cute?!?!? And look at those pick earrings! (blackbeautyandhair.com)

Zoella; above image

How cute are the starfish hair pins?!

The last thing you need to accessorize any style is- C O N F I D E N C E ! 💛

What’s your favorite ways to accessorize your hair? Which of these are your favorite?Will you be trying any? Comment belowimg_5723-3All of the images of these beautiful women were found on Tumblr, Pinterest, YouTube, Google search.

Hair Porosity???🤔

Hair porosity is how well your hair absorbs and retains moisture. Knowing your hair porosity can be very important especially for natural hair to know how you can properly keep your hair moisturized, and know what methods and products to use.

Knowing your hair porosity will allow you to maximize the benefits from your conditioning products. There is low, normal, and high porosity. 

Here are a few ways you can test what your hair porosity is:

(Please note that the hair should be freshly cleansed, no product on the strands for accurate results)

The Float Test

  • Fill a glass of with room temperature water
  • Take a couple of strands from your clean hair and put them in the water (do not push down)
  • Watch and wait for a few minutes 
  • After 4-5 minutes of your hair is still floating on the top of the water, you have low porosity. Low porosity means it’s a bit harder for your hair to absorb moisture. The cuticles are closed so moisture does not enter easily.
  • If your hair slowly sinks/stays in the middle you have normal porosity. Normal porosity is usually ideal because it absorbs and holds moisture well
  • If your hair sinks immediately you have high porosity hair. High porosity means that your hair absorbs moisture quickly, but can also lose it quickly

The Slide Test

  • Using a strand of your hair, starting from the end, slide your fingers up the hair shaft
  • If it feels bumpy you have high porosity 
  • If it feels smooth you have medium-low porosity 

The Spray Test

  • Section your hair and spray a section with water (you don’t have to drench it)
  • If the water sits on the hair or beads up you have low porosity 
  • If your hair absorbs the water quickly you have high porosity 
  • If the water sits for several minutes then absorbs you have normal porosity 

Care For  Low & High Porosity:

Please know that I am no expert but I’ve done a lot of research and trial with my own hair. Also, everyone’s hair is different so some things might work for ones low porosity hair that usually doesn’t for most, the same with high porosity. The tips below are general tips for each type.

Low Porosity:

  • Use low heat to open cuticles for moisture to be let in. You can begin washing your hair in warm water, or deep condition under a hair dryer (with plastic cap) heavier products just sit and weigh the hair down
  • Use lighter products and oils like Argan, and grape seed oil
  • Make sure you keep the hair free of a lot of build up which can also block moisture

High Porosity:

  • Heavy products like creams and hair butters are great for high porosity 
  • Heavy oils like castor oil, jojoba, coconut
  • Protein is good for the hair but not too much! Start out trying protein treatments/masks or products with protein once a month. I think that more than twice a month is too much.
  • Deep conditioning is good for all hair

If you have normal porosity, keep doing what you’re doing. Deep conditioning when needed, regularly.

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Natural Hair Terms: Part 1 of my natural hair series!✨

As you all know, or just might be finding out, I will be doing a short series leading up to my 1 year natural hair anniversary. My anniversary is on June 29th and all week long I will be sharing hair related posts. On Saturday I will share my own journey for the first year. I would really love to collaborate with any of my followers in sharing your hair journey or hair care tips on your blog also this Friday. If possible I would love to have 3 other bloggers to collab with, 1 with straight hair, 1 with wavy hair, and one with a loose curl pattern (I have the tighter curls/kinks) just to show that all hair types are beautiful and need to be cared for in some different ways but some similar ways also. Please email me at goldenpinkj@gmail.com or comment below your email if you are interested!

The natural hair movement first began as a way of encouraging women of color, or with African ancestry to celebrate, learn about, and love the hair that naturally grows from our scalps. Kinky/coily, and even curly hair was not always seen as beautiful or even professional. Some employers would go as far as not hiring you with afro textured hair saying it is not professional in the work environment. That’s like saying someones face (that they can’t do anything about) bothers you so much that they can not be allowed around you to work. Some students in schools have even been targeted because of their hair, having teachers and principals call it a distraction. Again, that’s like saying someone’s face is a distraction. Kinky coily hair has most often been seen as “unkempt,” people think we can’t comb through it or that we don’t wash it, and that it is nappy. The natural hair moment was started to show that straight hair is beautiful, but so is every other texture- and length! But the movement is so much more than texture and there are some terms you should know or may come across and would like to know…

Natural Hair Terms To Know

Hair Typing/Texture System; Created by Andre Walker

It is possible to have more than one texture. I am in the 4 category with probably 4a, 4b, and 4c in different areas or at least 2 of them! Type 1 is straight hair, type 2 is wavy, type 3 curly, type 4 kinky/curly/coily. The hair typing system isn’t as important as knowing something such as your hair porosity (hair’s ability to absorb moisture) which we will talk about another day:)

While there are many terms in the natural hair community, these are the ones I feel are most important to know, or are used most often:

APL– APL stands for arm pit length

BAA– BIG A** AFRO 😉

BSL– Bra strap length

Bantu Knots– A hairstyle created by carefully parting the hair in small to medium sections, then twisting the sections in one direction until they wrap into neat knots.

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Big Chop– Cutting off ALL relaxed/damaged portions of hair, leaving only new growth that has not been altered. (this is what I did to return to my natural texture, you can also transition)
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YouTuber;ChevysWay

Bonnet– Used to protect the hair/hairstyle at night while sleeping, like a scarf. But bonnets and silk/satin scarves are best to use. Cotton can dry out hair and cause breakage.
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Paula Almeida

CBL– Collar bone length

Creamy Crack/Perm/Relaxer– “Creamy Crack” is a term created to describe perms/hair relaxers because of the tendency of being difficult to stop using during the process of returning natural. Perms/hair relaxers are chemical products used to straighten the hair, permanently changing the natural texture. Once you relax your hair (most of us have been relaxed since we were kids) the only way to have the natural texture back is to grow it out not using relaxers anymore and cut the relaxed ends off.

Coily– A term used to reference the texture characteristic of natural type 4 hair, the strand resembles a small diameter ink pin spring. Most evident when the hair is wet and/or defined with a curling custard/gel.
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YouTuber;Kimmy Boutiki

Cowash– This is when you wash your hair with conditioner only. Washing hair with shampoo often can strip hair of its natural oils and be very drying.

Holy Grail– Refers to ones favorite hair products they always use

JBCO– Jamaican Black Castor Oil. Applying castor oil regularly can help moisturize your roots and scalp to prevent dry hair, as well as promote hair growth and thickening.

Loc Method/LCO– Method used for styling and sealing in moisture to hair using a liquid, oil, and a cream product. I do LCO, Liquid (water or leave in conditioner) Cream (a curl definer) Oil (JBCO to seal)

Pineapple-ing– Placing the hair in a high ponytail on top of the head in order to maintain curls/waves from a twist out style or other styles, and taking it down the next morning. Similar way of preserving a style as the bonnet.

Pre-Poo– Using a deep conditioner, damage repair treatment, or oils for a period of time (15 minutes or so) before shampooing.

Product Junkie– Person who buys and tries a lot of hair products, especially new.

Protective Styling– A hairstyle that protects the hair, mainly the ends (oldest part of hair) to minimize manipulation which can lead to breakage. This includes avoiding heat on the hair, avoiding everyday styling, combing/brushing. Examples include no heat, twists left in for a week or longer, weaves, wigs, and braided styles.

Shingling– brushing/raking gel, conditioner, or other product to hair to spread it from roots to end, which also defines the curls.

Shrinkage– Shrinkage refers to natural hair that shrinks usually half or more than half its actual length. It happens when your hair curls or coils up into its tightest state, usually after getting wet and drying. The curls shrivel up as they dry. Many of us try to avoid shrinkage to show off that true length but shrinkage is actually a good sign that your hair is healthy because it means your natural curls have reverted back. Say if you flat iron your hair and later wash it, if it does not revert back… You have experienced heat damage which is not healthy. This also means you can be natural (no chemical alterations) but have been straightening your hair so often that you have lost your natural pattern through heat damage. Below are examples of shrinkage

Transitioning– Transitioning is when you grow out your natural/healthy hair to desired length, gradually clipping away ends instead of jumping right in cutting off all of the relaxed/damaged ends like you would do in a big chop.

TWA– “Teeny Weeny Afro” lol how cute. This is basically a small afro. Which is usually the first stage when you big chop without transitioning.

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The 4 stages. I am in between 2 and 3. Stage 2 is often referred to as the “awkward” stage.

That’s all for part 1 of this hair journey series! I hope you could learn something??? Did I forget anything? And remember if anyone is interested in collaborating please leave your email or email me!

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Short Story Saturday! “The storm…”🌧⚡️

Before I went to bed I hoped for dreams that would guide me or give me some type of insight on what was going on in my life. I watched a few general tarot readings, most mentioning spiritual things. 

We’re at my boyfriends moms apartment on the third floor. A bad storm is coming expecting to kill nearly everyone. They say to expect a flood. 

The first floor has already flooded and it’s still pouring down out. Dark clouds are covering the sky, the 2nd floor is almost ready to get flooded.  My boyfriend left to go to the store. He’s crazy right?! 

I’m waiting for him, watching out of the window afraid he won’t make it back. Back before the storm wiped him out or drowned me alone waiting. But he made it back. He made it back!

It’s a miracle but the storm isn’t over. By this time I decide to text and call loved ones to tell them that I love them and give my final goodbye because I don’t know if we will survive what is coming. I just don’t want to drown. I can’t imagine if it seems so scary. I’ve nearly drowned before but actually drown… I’m not ready. I want to survive. I want to live. Why is this happening? Is it going to end?Nothing lasts forever? 

So is this going to end good or bad?

Suddenly things slow down and someone is saying, “I’m glad the storm has passed!”

I’m confused. I still see the storm. Is it really gone?

“Yes. Look.” The voice says again. I have no idea who this person is.

I look again…

The storm has suddenly stopped and didn’t make it to the 3rd floor. Firemen are already on the scene rescuing survivors from the 2nd floor. I can’t say much about the 3rd floor. I didn’t hear of any survivors nor deaths. Is that good or bad?

I’m just glad this was only a dream. Yes, this was an actual dream I had last week! I’ve been trying to be more consistent writing my dreams down (trying to lucid dream aha) and start a cool dream journal. Of course my dreams could be better, less frightening, especially this particular one. That was pretty much a beautiful nightmare! 

Whenever I have interesting dreams I try to remember the main feelings and objects I saw so that I can look up a possible deeper meaning. In this particular dream I looked up dreaming of storms, looking out of windows, and the number 3. Here’s what I found that most related to situations and feelings in my waking life:

Dreambible.com, Dreammoods.com

To see a storm in your dream signifies some overwhelming struggle, shock, loss or catastrophe in your waking life. The storm also represents unexpressed fears or emotions, such as anger, rage, turmoil, etc. To dream of expecting a storm represents feelings about potential conflict or arguments. You may feel that telling someone something unpleasant is going to cause a fight or cause serious problems. Anticipating trouble. On a more positive note, the storm symbolizes your rising spirituality. A storm may also reflect rapid change or progress. Caring about nothing or no one else as you move forward in a situation. 

To dream of looking out a window represents insight into what’s happening or your outlook for the future. Seeing ahead or what you feel is going to happen. It may also reflect your hopes for what is about to come. Negatively, dreaming about looking out a window may reflect expectations about the future that are based on fear, anxiety, or non-objective perspective.

The number 3 in a dream represents creation or making something happen. Your plans, goals, or intentions are coming to life. Alternatively, the number 3 may reflect a creative process or chaos. There may be unpredictability in your life. 

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What do you think? Do you believe in dreams having deeper meanings? Does your dreams relate to your waking life? Have you ever looked up what your dreams meant? Do you like this for a story? I have a few more dreams I’m planning to use for Short Story Saturday:)

Let’s talk! Comment below💕

Better Sleep Better Me; Better Snooze Better You!😴✨

Do you ever struggle with sleeping at night? Are you what they call a night owl?
I knew I wasn’t the only one! I get it. Sometimes you’re just not tired, sometimes there’s way too much on your mind to be able to rest. Sometimes you’re busy trying to finish things before the next day. Sometimes you just can’t get comfortable. I have the same issues. Well, until I started researching and learning more about the subject, and using a few tips.

Do you know what happens during a nap or full night of sleep? Do you know why it’s important to be getting enough hours of sleep each night?

May is better sleep month to encourage people to establish better sleeping patterns and learn more about what really goes on while we sleep.
Here’s a graphic of the sleep cycle for more information, along with some of my tips for a better nights sleep.

leesa_sleep_cycle_x2_v03Learn anything interesting? You’re probably eager to know those tips I have so without further ado, let’s get ready for bed;)

1 sheep, 2 sheep, 3 sheep, 4-

Are you falling asleep yet? Does counting sheep help you fall asleep? Me either! My tips below will work a lot better. Trust me.

12 Ways I Ensure I Get A Good Nights Sleep:

1. Try to be busy throughout the day. I find that I get my best nights of sleep when I’ve had a work day or I’ve been out of the house for a few hours. Workout, go out with friends/family, whatever gets you active for a while.

2. Limit your naps. I know naps can be good, but too much of anything is bad right?Sometimes you think you’ll only take a little cat nap, next thing you know you’re waking up hours later thinking it’s the next morning and you’re left wide awake for the rest of the night.

3. Try not to sleep in. Simple enough. There were times I would sleep until 2 PM. I would end up falling asleep around 2 AM.s

4. Have a full meal. I try to have a filling meal a couple of hours before bed or have a snack right before. Who can fall asleep on an empty, growling stomach?

5. Limit light and electronic devices. This should be a no-brainer. I can’t fall asleep if the TV is on, I’m blogging, or liking pictures on Instagram.

6. Read a book right before bed. I find that if I read during bedtime my eyes will get tired quickly and I’ll be able to fall asleep.

7. Try to go to sleep and wake up around the same time. Develop a sleeping pattern. Once I started doing this it was like my body knew exactly what time it was, what time to go to bed and when it’s time to wake up.

8. A hot shower or bubble bath will definitely relax you for a good nights sleep.

9. Temperature. I don’t know about you but I can’t sleep if it’s too hot or too cold. The temperature has to be just right. I like the temperature to be steady also, or have plenty cover ready. Sometimes I have the air on and after a few hours I find myself waking up trying to wrap up in more cover.

10. Wherever I’m sleeping has to be neat and clean. Can you agree? If you can’t work properly in a mess without discomfort, i’m sure you can’t sleep there either.

11. Don’t fight it! I can’t count how many times I’ve tried to fight my sleep just because I was trying to get something done. You’re just going to be missing out on time that you could be resting, you might even win that battle and wake yourself back up! It’s happened to me before.

12. Have a great mattress of course! If you want, you can check out Sweet Home’s review on the Leesa, an online luxury mattress that you can try for 100 nights risk free!

Not getting enough sleep not only affects your mind and body, but also your appearance. They don’t call it beauty sleep for nothing! Sleep better this May, and every other month from now on:)

I hope you’ve found this post and my tips useful. What tips can you add? Leave a comment below.

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Featured image from Pixabay.