Hair Porosity???🤔

Hair porosity is how well your hair absorbs and retains moisture. Knowing your hair porosity can be very important especially for natural hair to know how you can properly keep your hair moisturized, and know what methods and products to use.

Knowing your hair porosity will allow you to maximize the benefits from your conditioning products. There is low, normal, and high porosity. 

Here are a few ways you can test what your hair porosity is:

(Please note that the hair should be freshly cleansed, no product on the strands for accurate results)

The Float Test

  • Fill a glass of with room temperature water
  • Take a couple of strands from your clean hair and put them in the water (do not push down)
  • Watch and wait for a few minutes 
  • After 4-5 minutes of your hair is still floating on the top of the water, you have low porosity. Low porosity means it’s a bit harder for your hair to absorb moisture. The cuticles are closed so moisture does not enter easily.
  • If your hair slowly sinks/stays in the middle you have normal porosity. Normal porosity is usually ideal because it absorbs and holds moisture well
  • If your hair sinks immediately you have high porosity hair. High porosity means that your hair absorbs moisture quickly, but can also lose it quickly

The Slide Test

  • Using a strand of your hair, starting from the end, slide your fingers up the hair shaft
  • If it feels bumpy you have high porosity 
  • If it feels smooth you have medium-low porosity 

The Spray Test

  • Section your hair and spray a section with water (you don’t have to drench it)
  • If the water sits on the hair or beads up you have low porosity 
  • If your hair absorbs the water quickly you have high porosity 
  • If the water sits for several minutes then absorbs you have normal porosity 

Care For  Low & High Porosity:

Please know that I am no expert but I’ve done a lot of research and trial with my own hair. Also, everyone’s hair is different so some things might work for ones low porosity hair that usually doesn’t for most, the same with high porosity. The tips below are general tips for each type.

Low Porosity:

  • Use low heat to open cuticles for moisture to be let in. You can begin washing your hair in warm water, or deep condition under a hair dryer (with plastic cap) heavier products just sit and weigh the hair down
  • Use lighter products and oils like Argan, and grape seed oil
  • Make sure you keep the hair free of a lot of build up which can also block moisture

High Porosity:

  • Heavy products like creams and hair butters are great for high porosity 
  • Heavy oils like castor oil, jojoba, coconut
  • Protein is good for the hair but not too much! Start out trying protein treatments/masks or products with protein once a month. I think that more than twice a month is too much.
  • Deep conditioning is good for all hair

If you have normal porosity, keep doing what you’re doing. Deep conditioning when needed, regularly.


Low Porosity

High Porosity 



Natural Hair Series: Products I Use✨

For part 2 of my Natural Hair Series I’m going to be sharing all of the products I’ve used so far. I’m sharing the ones I love and the ones I will not be purchasing again. Hair care products are trial and error. It’s easy to become a product junkie but I think for the first year I’ve done pretty well not purchasing too much. What works for my hair may not work for yours, just as what works for yours may not work for mine. Everyone’s hair is different and takes to products differently. Again, it has to do with your hair porosity, texture, thickness etc. Later on in the week I’ll show you ways you can test your hair porosity.

The first 3 products are from the Cantu natural hair line. It’s the Hydrating Cream Conditioner, Complete Conditioning Co-wash, and the Moisturizing Curl Activator Cream. All have a light tropical scent! This was the first line I tried when I big chopped and I would recommended them to anyone just starting out who might be clueless on what products to use. This may not be the absolute BEST line but it works just as well as some of the most popular/expensive brands in my opinion. I have nothing negative to say. Cheap and works well? That’s all you need! This is also the only line I’ve used at least 3 of their products. Like most natural hair products, the line uses no sulfates, silicones, or parabens.

The next products are Shea Moisture’s JBCO Strengthen, Grow, & Restore Treatement Masque, and their Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo.  I love the masque and would definitely buy it again, it leaves my hair super soft and curls poppin’! I use a masque about twice a month. I do want to try their manuka honey masque though. I think it will be just as great if not better. The shampoo however is not a favorite. I feel that it does a good job getting my hair clean but even while using it my hair feels dry and I also end up having to use so much to get a good lather. I’ll finish this bottle but I probably won’t purchase it again. Shea Moisture is one of those popular/more expensive brands I mentioned. A lot of curly gals swear by SM! And I agree some of their products are pretty good but nope, this shampoo is a no for me.

The 3rd bottle in the picture is True by Made Beautiful’s Nourishing Leave-In Conditioner for all hair types. At first I wasn’t so sure about this product because it’s not really thick and I find that my hair loves thicker consistency in products. The bottle sold me though, and because it smells amazing! It also has a tropical scent, a bit stronger than Cantu. I went to a birthday party after using this product along with Cantu’s Curl Activator Cream and hugged my cousin…The first thing she said was “Mmm! Girl your hair smells good!” Lol.

The 4th bottle is so far my favorite conditioner! Aussie Moist 3 Minute Miracle, this stuff is really the truth! And again, many curly gals, even women with straight/wavy hair I’ve seen swear by this product so I highly recommend it. I usually detangle my hair while using Aussie Moist on wash days. It’s not a leave-in so I do go in with a leave in afterwards but if you want a good detangler, or a good deep conditioner that you only have to use for 3 minutes definitely give it a try. I’ve used it for 3 minutes and it does work, but I usually leave it in for 6-10 minutes and it works even better my opinion.

The Creme Of Nature Perfect Edges edge control should actually be in my list of products I won’t be purchasing again, I put it in this shot because it looks nice with the treatment masque. In the beginning I felt it was necessary to have slicked edges, or my “edges on fleek” well, I’d rather have my edges grow and not break off. It’s okay to do them occasionally with certain styles, but you don’t need to for every single style. I won’t be purchasing it again because it doesn’t even work for my hair. Maybe for an hour (if that) and then those edges curl right back up so what’s the point? Many type 4 naturals have this issue, and some use gorilla snot gel which I haven’t tried yet. The name is kind of off putting lol but supposedly it has a super strong hold.

I’ll definitely be trying more of the True line. Izabelle just walking by, she stays by mama lol.

The next 3 products are the oils I use and gel. Jamaican Black Castor Oil helps strengthen hair, nourishes, seals in moisture, and helps promote hair growth. This is something I will probably always use. A holy grail for sure! My hair always feels soft and moisturized for days after using. They have different kinds and I may try them all but so far I’ve only tried coconut. I recently purchased the original and will be trying it sometime this week.
I use the olive oil Eco Styler Gel, but they also have others like their new Black Castor Flaxseed Oil gel that I definitely will be trying. I’ve literally had this for a year! It lasts so long and a little goes a long way. I only use it for my twists and when I start to do braid-outs.

This last shot is of the products I will not be purchasing again.

I actually didn’t purchase the Garnier Fructis products, my friend who actually has straight hair gave them to me because she didn’t like them for her own hair. Her hair was dry and damaged due to coloring so she was looking for something to help reduce frizz and rough ends. If you have heat or color damage the only thing you can do unfortunately is to cut it off. No product is going to bring it back to life. I’ve used Garnier Fructis products when I had relaxed hair and it worked well but i’m not quite sure I want to try it on my natural hair. If a product has any kind of alcohol in the first few ingredients, I usually won’t try it (besides Aussie Moist; since i’m not leaving that in) I took it because I do kind of want to test it out but ehhh..??? IDK.

AU Natural by Dark and Lovely (made with mango oil and bamboo milk) just didn’t impress me at all. I got this in the beginning of my journey to try to reduce some shrinkage. I later realized that those products that claim to be “Anti-Shrinkage” are a waste. Do not go for those products. Most likely you will be disappointed, it may help reduce a little shrinkage but then you wonder how? Dark and Lovely is also a popular relaxer/perming brand. No product will be anti-shrinkage, you’re still going to experience it unless your hair is completely damaged or relaxed. Shrinkage shows that your curly/kinky hair is healthy! I had to use so much of the shampoo, and I don’t even remember how the leave-in conditioner was. The only good thing I have to say about this product is that it smells nice…

Lastly, Wild Growth Hair Oil. So many people swear by this product, men and women. But the scent isn’t pleasant and I just can’t believe that a product made specifically for growth really works unless you really test it out. I don’t mean try it out for a month and see if your hair has grown… How do you know that it was the product and not just regular hair growth? How do you know it’s not other products or what you’re doing, or putting into your body? I feel like the only way you can get somewhat of an accurate result is to not use any growth products for a period of time and measure the growth, and then use the product for the same period of time and measure if it’s grown more or less. Or maybe cut/shave some of your hair on each side, on one side use the product consistently, and on the other side not at all. Something I don’t want to spend time doing. Many people don’t do this when they give their reviews. I purchased this product when I first big chopped because I was obviously wanting length at the time. Cutting my hair off I was nearly bald! I wasn’t comfortable with my hair that short because short hair is not usually seen as the most attractive for girls, I was even made fun of and had disapproval by family members. Still to this day actually and it’s been a year. But now I don’t care so much about length or others opinions. My hair is beautiful, healthy, growing, and is no longer chemically treated to be in a way that it wasn’t meant to be. That’s all that matters.


I forgot to add Eden Body Works Coconut Shea Leave In Conditioner and Johoba Monoi Moisturizing Shampoo. I picked these up from the dollar store, I haven’t tried them yet so I can’t give any type of review besides that they both smell really good, I’m trying the shampoo because it claims to be moisturizing. They didn’t have the complete line to either which is why I got 2 different. I went to YouTube for reviews and so far the best reviews are for the leave in conditioner. I’ve seen mainly negative reviews for the shampoo, hopefully this is different for me. I’ll be trying them out sometime this week.

What products do you use for your hair? Have you used any of the products I mentioned? Are there any products you would recommend trying? Let me know in the comments.💛


Elsie’s Summer Bucket List: The Summer Party Playlist 1st Single!:)

I want to thank Elsie for participating in my Summer Party Playlist project. She was to first to make an entry and our first single for the “album!” I am so excited to share with you all her summer bucket list:) Mine would be very similar! So check it out and also check her blog out if you haven’t already. Leave her a nice comment and follow💛
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Hi everyone! How are you all on this overly sunny summers day? Don’t worry it’ll be Christmas soon 😂 (I can’t be the only one thinking that?..halfway through the year so why not? 😂). I’ve been thinking about what I would like to do this summer before I go on holiday in August to England as when I get back, summer will surely be a distant memory 😂 This post is for Lee’s Summer Party Playlist Project which you can take part in too if you want at the link by either sending Lee a summer themed post (there are suggestions on her page) or publishing a new post (like this bucket list) with a link to her blog saying you are doing it! So here are the things I want to do this summer!

Go to the beach more than once! 

I live close to a couple of beaches but hardly ever go there 🙈. I can’t even remember the last time I went 🤔 I was supposed to go last month but I don’t think I felt well. Actually the last time I went was probably last August in Brighton!! I’ve got to pay my respect to Irish beaches! 😂 I wanted my mum to come but in reality I know that the sun and heat is too dangerous for her as it is so why would we risk the beach? And I can’t walk barefoot on the beach 😬 because of my Raynaud’s it oddly resembles walking on fire! 😂 but it won’t put me off going! 😂 The sound of the ocean and and the soft sand..I’m grinning at the thought!

Take more selfies 😗😙😝

The few pictures I randomly post of myself on my blog are the majority I have! 😂 I don’t know why I don’t take pictures of myself. When I’m older I know I will want some to look back on and I know that what will start me taking them is when they correspond to a memory….so I better start making some memories! 😂 Or else I’ll forget myself as I can’t even picture my family’s faces in my mind when I’m not around them let alone my own 😬😂.

Go in the garden and for walks up the road!

What I love most about living in the Irish countryside is the greenness (not a word?! 😂) of it all! Every other green seems fake in comparison 😂 everywhere you look is a picture waiting to be taken, it is so peaceful and surreal. I need to take advantage of the fresh air when I’m well and able!

Get out and do stuff!

There is not much here in terms of festivals/events and I would probably be too nervous to go anyway 😂 but if something comes along that I am interested in, I should just go. This includes shops, cafes, cinema trips. Even if I don’t buy anything, it’s good to get out (the house is like a furnace 😬😂). My friend is back from college (which is 4 hours away on the other side of ireland!) So I know for sure I will meet up with her allot! (Today we are going to the cinema to see The Mummy!).

Make a vision board!

I’ve wanted to make a vision board for a very long time but haven’t because I didn’t want to ruin my magazines! But everything in them is long gone from the shops now 😂 I found a piece of card that folds over like a photo album so I’m planning on doing it soon! I might even embarrass myself and do a post on it 😬😂.

Have a picnic! 🍝(Pasta at a picnic sounds like a living dream 😍😂).

A proper one with a wicker basket and a blanket (not a towel! 🙄😂) With lemonade and healthy homemade stuff I’ll eat because it looks pretty on the occasion 😂 no sandwiches though. I’ve had my fare share of sand filled sandwiches (suppose it’s karma with the name 😂).

Get my ears pierced….again! 😂

I got my ears pierced when I was around eight but never really wore studs in them 🙄 so last year I realized one has closed up. On the day I got them done I remember that the lady used the gun to shoot my left ear and I got up and went to walk off thinking she was done…she hadn’t even done my right ear and I was at the door 😑 (don’t mind me I’m just grimacing with embarrassment! 😫😂) it wasn’t even painful so I don’t get why I thought that one shot had magically gone through my head to my other ear 🙈. I’m not too fussed about getting them done again but if I do I will know it was on this list! 😂

Go to a car boot sale! 

We used to go to one near our house allot (it is held every Sunday) so I might go again as you never know what’s there! I used to come away with handfuls of books for a fiver 😵😂 half the time the stuff could be bought cheaper brand new 🙄 but you don’t know that when you’re there do you? As people can be crafty. I once got 2 PS2 games and I was talked into it as I find it incredibly difficult to say no to a deal (“it was not a deal!” I want to shout at younger me! 😂)…as you can probably guess, the games didn’t bloody work 😳 I was in a state of shock 😂. The last few times I went I didn’t buy anything (that was when I started getting smart with my money! 😂) But whenever we drive past the area the sale is held on a Sunday I always wonder what’s on the tables 😂 so hopefully I’ll go to one.

Thank you for reading! 😉💗 I will revisit this post at the end of the summer and see if I actually did any of this stuff! 😂 What is on your summer bucket list? Have a lovely day! 

Wasn’t that a wonderful entry? I think so! If you would still like to participate, just send me your entry at or doing what Elsie did, by posting your entry to your blog and tagging me in it. (Remember it must be a new post)


Natural Hair Terms: Part 1 of my natural hair series!✨

As you all know, or just might be finding out, I will be doing a short series leading up to my 1 year natural hair anniversary. My anniversary is on June 29th and all week long I will be sharing hair related posts. On Saturday I will share my own journey for the first year. I would really love to collaborate with any of my followers in sharing your hair journey or hair care tips on your blog also this Friday. If possible I would love to have 3 other bloggers to collab with, 1 with straight hair, 1 with wavy hair, and one with a loose curl pattern (I have the tighter curls/kinks) just to show that all hair types are beautiful and need to be cared for in some different ways but some similar ways also. Please email me at or comment below your email if you are interested!

The natural hair movement first began as a way of encouraging women of color, or with African ancestry to celebrate, learn about, and love the hair that naturally grows from our scalps. Kinky/coily, and even curly hair was not always seen as beautiful or even professional. Some employers would go as far as not hiring you with afro textured hair saying it is not professional in the work environment. That’s like saying someones face (that they can’t do anything about) bothers you so much that they can not be allowed around you to work. Some students in schools have even been targeted because of their hair, having teachers and principals call it a distraction. Again, that’s like saying someone’s face is a distraction. Kinky coily hair has most often been seen as “unkempt,” people think we can’t comb through it or that we don’t wash it, and that it is nappy. The natural hair moment was started to show that straight hair is beautiful, but so is every other texture- and length! But the movement is so much more than texture and there are some terms you should know or may come across and would like to know…

Natural Hair Terms To Know

Hair Typing/Texture System; Created by Andre Walker

It is possible to have more than one texture. I am in the 4 category with probably 4a, 4b, and 4c in different areas or at least 2 of them! Type 1 is straight hair, type 2 is wavy, type 3 curly, type 4 kinky/curly/coily. The hair typing system isn’t as important as knowing something such as your hair porosity (hair’s ability to absorb moisture) which we will talk about another day:)

While there are many terms in the natural hair community, these are the ones I feel are most important to know, or are used most often:

APL– APL stands for arm pit length


BSL– Bra strap length

Bantu Knots– A hairstyle created by carefully parting the hair in small to medium sections, then twisting the sections in one direction until they wrap into neat knots.


Big Chop– Cutting off ALL relaxed/damaged portions of hair, leaving only new growth that has not been altered. (this is what I did to return to my natural texture, you can also transition)

Bonnet– Used to protect the hair/hairstyle at night while sleeping, like a scarf. But bonnets and silk/satin scarves are best to use. Cotton can dry out hair and cause breakage.
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Paula Almeida

CBL– Collar bone length

Creamy Crack/Perm/Relaxer– “Creamy Crack” is a term created to describe perms/hair relaxers because of the tendency of being difficult to stop using during the process of returning natural. Perms/hair relaxers are chemical products used to straighten the hair, permanently changing the natural texture. Once you relax your hair (most of us have been relaxed since we were kids) the only way to have the natural texture back is to grow it out not using relaxers anymore and cut the relaxed ends off.

Coily– A term used to reference the texture characteristic of natural type 4 hair, the strand resembles a small diameter ink pin spring. Most evident when the hair is wet and/or defined with a curling custard/gel.
YouTuber;Kimmy Boutiki

Cowash– This is when you wash your hair with conditioner only. Washing hair with shampoo often can strip hair of its natural oils and be very drying.

Holy Grail– Refers to ones favorite hair products they always use

JBCO– Jamaican Black Castor Oil. Applying castor oil regularly can help moisturize your roots and scalp to prevent dry hair, as well as promote hair growth and thickening.

Loc Method/LCO– Method used for styling and sealing in moisture to hair using a liquid, oil, and a cream product. I do LCO, Liquid (water or leave in conditioner) Cream (a curl definer) Oil (JBCO to seal)

Pineapple-ing– Placing the hair in a high ponytail on top of the head in order to maintain curls/waves from a twist out style or other styles, and taking it down the next morning. Similar way of preserving a style as the bonnet.

Pre-Poo– Using a deep conditioner, damage repair treatment, or oils for a period of time (15 minutes or so) before shampooing.

Product Junkie– Person who buys and tries a lot of hair products, especially new.

Protective Styling– A hairstyle that protects the hair, mainly the ends (oldest part of hair) to minimize manipulation which can lead to breakage. This includes avoiding heat on the hair, avoiding everyday styling, combing/brushing. Examples include no heat, twists left in for a week or longer, weaves, wigs, and braided styles.

Shingling– brushing/raking gel, conditioner, or other product to hair to spread it from roots to end, which also defines the curls.

Shrinkage– Shrinkage refers to natural hair that shrinks usually half or more than half its actual length. It happens when your hair curls or coils up into its tightest state, usually after getting wet and drying. The curls shrivel up as they dry. Many of us try to avoid shrinkage to show off that true length but shrinkage is actually a good sign that your hair is healthy because it means your natural curls have reverted back. Say if you flat iron your hair and later wash it, if it does not revert back… You have experienced heat damage which is not healthy. This also means you can be natural (no chemical alterations) but have been straightening your hair so often that you have lost your natural pattern through heat damage. Below are examples of shrinkage

Transitioning– Transitioning is when you grow out your natural/healthy hair to desired length, gradually clipping away ends instead of jumping right in cutting off all of the relaxed/damaged ends like you would do in a big chop.

TWA– “Teeny Weeny Afro” lol how cute. This is basically a small afro. Which is usually the first stage when you big chop without transitioning.

The 4 stages. I am in between 2 and 3. Stage 2 is often referred to as the “awkward” stage.

That’s all for part 1 of this hair journey series! I hope you could learn something??? Did I forget anything? And remember if anyone is interested in collaborating please leave your email or email me!


500 Follower Q&A Game!💖☺️

Some of you have been playing this game already without even knowing it:)

I know this was supposed to be posted yesterday, but unfortunately we had some issues with the wifi and when it was finally fixed I felt like it was too late in the night to post, so here we are now…

Thank you all for your questions!
The rules of the game and how to play:

The only rules are to have asked a question, or answer my bonus questions (below) in the comments and be the first 5 to reach 500 points! There is one extra rule and I’ll tell you about it shortly.

Remember yesterday when I said that 5 is a lucky number for this post? That’s because that’s how some of you have already earned points and a head start in the game:)

All of the questions are numbered in the order they were asked. How you can earn points:
-Each number with a 5 in it (5,15,25,35) the person who asked that question gets 50 points
-The person who asked the 5th question (the 1st number with a 5) will get an additional 5 points
-The 5th person to ask a question gets 50 points
-My 5 favorite questions get 50 points
-Answer MY bonus questions (100/150 POINTS EACH)
-That extra rule: For the bonus questions, please do not choose most questions you see someone else has already answered or answer with similar choices. I will think you are just copying them and obviously that would be cheating:/)

Lets get started!


1.What’s your favourite quote/saying? There’s sooo many to choose from! But i’m gonna choose “remember how far you’ve come, not just how far you have to go. You may not be where you want to be but neither are you where you used to be.”

2.Cats or dogs? I love both but definitely a cat lady😻

3.Sweet or savoury? Sweets are delicious of course but I prefer savory.

4.If you only had one week to live, what would you do, where would you go? Gonna be honest… If I knew I had only a week left to live I’d probably be too depressed to want to do anything. It definitely wouldn’t be enough time to do all the things I really want. The days go by so quick. That’s a really hard one!

*5.Samsung or Apple? My first Samsung was the galaxy s3 and I loved it! I think that was my favorite phone so far but this is also a really hard one because I love them both for different reasons.

Gracie Chick

6.How do you think that you can change the world? I think I can change the world by being a positive influence and inspiring many people through my writing and creativity. I can change the world by making people think outside the box, I’m very open minded and imaginative!

7.Writing or reading? Both!!

8.Drawing/painting or photography? Hmmm, I’d say painting and photography though i’m not very good at either.

9.Favourite book ever? I’ve read some really cool books, but not as much as I used to. I always say Twilight for this question because I read all the books in the series and it’s the first one I think of. My 9th grade English teacher suggested it to me, he knew I would love it.

10.Your favourite word? Oh I have quite a few favorite words! 3 of them are Euphoria, Epiphany, and Iridescent.

11.The first five things you think when you hear your own name? (Sorry, I know this is a weird one. Oh, and you can use ‘Lee’ instead of your real name) Honestly I just said it out loud to myself and thought of air lmao! Idk it seems like a short sweet airy name.. I also think of the spelling Leigh, I think it sounds pretty, that it’s part of my middle name, & Bruce Lee😂

12.The first five things you think when you hear MY name? Gracie always makes me think of grace. I feel like if you have that name you have to be really sweet. It makes me think of an old friend I had. Kind of miss her now that I think about her. It makes me think of Graciela because that’s what people called her even though her name is just Gracie lol, she’s Salvadorian. It makes me think of peace because it sounds like a peaceful name lol and it makes me think of Amazing Grace.


13.What are your 5 current, short-term goals? My 5 current short term goals are 1.) Get back on track with blogging and catching up with everyone 2.) Plan/schedule my hair posts 3.) Share my weekend pickups 4.) Upload a video to YouTube 5.) Worry less.

14.Who is your biggest inspiration? Why do they inspire you? Jhene Aiko because I relate to her music soo much and I love her adventurous instagram and snapchat posts. She often shares a lot of inspirational quotes. If I were a singer my music would be similar to hers and a few others.

*15.What makes you happy? Making someone else happy, children/babies, accomplishments, making friends, creating things, writing,watching the sunset, music, late night conversations, the good times with family, the list goes on 🙂

16.What is something that you’re proud of? I’m proud of the fact that despite constantly feeling like the world is against me with all these unfortunate events, I keep going. I could have given up long ago and believe me I almost did. I’m also proud of this blog and how much it has grown.

Starring Pamela

17.What’s your favorite song lyric? “Why aren’t you smiling? Life can get wild when you’re caught in the whirlwind, Lost in the world when, you’re chasing the win you gotta understand…There’s really no end, there’s really no beginning,” Jhene Aiko; W.A.Y.S

18.How many photos does it take to get the perfect selfie? Often way too many lol

19.Who is someone that you’d most like to meet? Jhene Aiko lol. We could collaborate on something really nice and celebrate our birthdays together:)


20.What is your favourite colour? It’s a tie between pink and gold at the moment💖

21.What attracts you to a blog? The name, the overall look, what type of posts they have, and the consistency.


22.Do you like Hamilton the musical? (I love it) This is actually my first time hearing of it! I may need to check it out huh?


23.Do you have any weird habits? (For example, when I’m eating something delicious, I clench my spare fist. It’s odd, and creepy, but I can’t help it haha) Lol that is a bit odd but I love it. The first thing I can think of is if I eat something sweet I MUST have something savory afterwards. I just don’t like having the sweet taste last for some reason lol unless it’s SUPERRRR delicious.

Tikeetha T

24.My question is…what relationship advice would you give to young women between the ages of 18-30? When I was 18 I was in a relationship that ended up lasting almost 5 years. It was a great relationship but I couldn’t help but wonder If I would miss out on things in life or what I might really want in a partner by staying with the same person from high school all my life, being so serious at a young age. Not that it isn’t possible! But for me, I didn’t feel it was best. I would say take things as slow as possible, really get to know the person… You might feel like you love that person sooo much and know everything about them but sometimes true colors show only after time, or when you live together, or when something terrible happens. Don’t be so involved in showing off on social media because once people get in your business they’ll try to tell you something about your boyfriend/girlfriend you might not like, or you might even feel the need to snoop around driving yourself crazy over likes and comments. I’ve been a teen, I know how they are, even some adults sadly. If you’re in a relationship with someone, ask yourself what you really like about that person without mentioning anything physical- Looks aren’t everything! LISTEN TO EACH OTHER! Share your thoughts, dreams, opinion,s and goals with each other, be a team! I could give a lot of advice but this is getting way too long lol getting carried away.


*25.Where is your favourite place to write down your blogs? I usually like to plan out my ideas in my notebook and write them in my notes on my phone.


26.If you had the chance of visiting a continent in the world which would it be? And why? I’d have to say both Africa (for cultural reasons, go on a safari, and to volunteer in an orphanages, projects and charities) and Australia. I’ve always heard nice things about Australia especially from YouTubers I’ve watched:)

Everything EmmZeeBee 

27.What is your favourite veg and your favourite fruit? My favorite fruit is pineapple and kiwi. My favorite vegetable hmmmm… green beans? lol🤔


28.If you could meet and talk to anyone dead or alive who would you choose and why? This was hard, but since I already answered who I’d like to meet alive I’ll say Aaliyah the R&B singer. I would choose her and ask what type of music she would be putting out if she were still alive today.


29.Is there anything that you feel you were born to do, or any passion you’re dying to fulfill? I’ve always felt like I was here to just love and be loved. To inspire people and be inspired, to guide myself others to a more peaceful way of living.


30.Who do you look up to the most? I look up to my dad the most. My dad and I don’t have the best relationship but he’s still my world. He does his best to be a great father despite everything that has happened and is a hard working man! He never gave up. For a while he was even a father figure to my brother (until we were separated after foster care) who is not his biological son.

ES Ordinary 

31.What sort of thing would you give up to save a family member? I don’t have much but whatever I have in that moment that can save them, take it.

32.What is the most exquisite thing you can cook? I’m not the greatest cook honestly I’m still learning. It’s often embarrassing because people have made fun of me or had negative comments about my age and not knowing how. I think I have breakfast down okay lol. Now for dinners. I just starting learning to do many things once I turned 21 (23 now) such as driving, and cooking. That’s when I started to become more independent and learn that I can’t allow family and everyone else to keep me down, letting my life go by. I was so isolated pretty much my whole life I spent at school (because I had to and school was better than home) and in my room sad, angry, and scared to do anything or ask for help with anything. I’m finally living!

33.What do you think is your natural talent? I think my natural talent has something to do with writing and creating.

34.Cheese or chocolate? Not big on either lol, but chocolate! Chocolate is good for comfort lol.

Dippy-Dotty Girl

*35. Have you finally got your essentials in place? Lol not at all!! Ugh. I did pick up a few things this weekend but none of them were furniture lol not enough for that yet. slowly but surly we’ll have it all together.


36.What is your idea of the perfect life? For me it would be growing up with my mom and dad them being married, and being with ALL of my brothers and sisters (my mom gave 2 of my brothers away at birth, I really hope I can find and meet them one day) my other brother (oldest) is just like me I guess and we don’t even talk anymore. We were so close. He is the one I was in foster care with. We share the same mom but not the same dad. He recently had a son, but i’m not sure I will get to meet him. I guess the perfect life would be to have had a better family connection.

37.If you could bring home an animal from the zoo? what would you choose? I really like this question 🙂 I’d probably choose a panda, a giraffe, or tiger. Why can’t they be like cats and dogs lol?

38.How would you sum yourself up in one sentence/short paragraph? In a short paragraph I would say “I lived a life where love was mostly absent, but still I am to love and be loved. Still I am to inspire, still I am to guide, and still I rise like Maya Angelou. The one who wishes she could take away all of her pain and everyone else’s, I am one of the sweetest persons you’ll ever meet. To really know me is to love me.” 🙂

My Favorite Questions:
*50 PTS*: #17(Starring Pamela), #24(Tikeetha T), #29(IWannaBeALady), #37(LauziesLifestyle), #38(LauziesLifestyle)

I also added a drawing into to the game, I plan to do something similar for 1000 followers but with a video so that you all can actually see for yourself. But for this time, I wrote down everyone’s name that asked a question and pulled 5 from a jar (I hope you all trust me) Each of the bloggers pulled will also get 50 points. The lucky 5 are…
Tikeetha T, Maggie, Gracie, Cherylene, InkGirl&Words

Bonus Questions (ANYONE CAN PARTICIPATE) *100/150 PTS*

39. List 5 words I’ve used for the words of the week series (100 points)

40. For my Golden Blogger pass who was the first 2 nominations? (100 points)

41. What is my pets YouTube channel name? (150 Points)

42. What’s the name of my Summer project? (100 points)

43. List 5 short stories I’ve written for SSS (150 points)

44. 5 things I’ve done for Fun Friday (150 points)

45. On my “Today’s To Do” what is the first thing that is always on the list? (100 points) *This one has been answered 3 times already so this one will not count anymore*

46. On my blog, in my “Today’s To Do” series what does “R/C/R” stand for? (100 points)

47. What is my cats name? (100 points)

48. What are my guinea pigs names? You probably only know this if you watch the channel. (150 points)

49. I was nominated for a cute animal tag, was it the Judy The Kitty Tag, Judy The Bunny Tag, or Judy the Puppy Tag? (100 points)

50. I told you all about my first heartbreak. When did the guy break up with me? (100 points)

51. What is my blogs email? (100 points)

52. A few years ago I survived something on my dads birthday. What did I survive? (100 points)

53. Who was the first friend I made here on WordPress? (100 points)

54. What series do I have on my Instagram? (100 points)

55. What is the title of my very first blog post? (150 points)

The first 5 to reach 500 points will be featured on my blog for 5 days these next 5 weeks! It will be in order so act fast! This won’t be just sharing my favorite posts of yours to my blog, I will be doing things such as adding you to a short story, a Fun Friday relating to you and your blog, sharing my favorite pictures of you or your blog, a post about your social media, guest post, it could be anything! Just know that you’ll be on my blog for 5 days:) This is to show thanks to all of my followers, but even more to the ones who constantly read, comment, and show their support. This also helps me with post ideas for the next month basically!

I will be announcing winners as soon as there is a 5th win,

Good luck to all and thank you all again so much!

Score so far…

Its’SimplyMeJasmine- 55 pts (the additional 5 for asking the 5th question)

Maggie- 100 pts

Misabella- 50 pts

Zaynab- 50 pts (5th person to ask a question)

Dippy-DottyGirl- 50 pts

Starring Pamela- 50 pts

Tikeetha T- 100 pts

IWannaBeALady- 50 pts

GracieChick- 100 pts

Laura- 100 pts

Cherylene- 50 pts

InkGirl&Words- 50 pts

They all have a head start, but the game is still anyone’s! Let’s get on the board!



Last chance to send your questions💖

I’ve been having some wifi troubles today and trying to upload this reminder has been a pain. I hope I goes through this time, it’s been about 20 minutes…

I just want to remind you all that this is the last chance to send in your questions, I will be answering them tomorrow:) I did not answer them Friday. I’ve got some great questions so far and I can’t wait to answer them all!

5 is going to be a lucky number during this Q&A

Just for a little example, the 5th question I get, the 5th person to ask a question.. There will be a special surprise from me as a thank you✨

Some of them have already been chosen but there will be more☺️

So just give this post a like and leave your questions in the comments💖

Thank you

Short Story Saturday! “The storm…”🌧⚡️

Before I went to bed I hoped for dreams that would guide me or give me some type of insight on what was going on in my life. I watched a few general tarot readings, most mentioning spiritual things. 

We’re at my boyfriends moms apartment on the third floor. A bad storm is coming expecting to kill nearly everyone. They say to expect a flood. 

The first floor has already flooded and it’s still pouring down out. Dark clouds are covering the sky, the 2nd floor is almost ready to get flooded.  My boyfriend left to go to the store. He’s crazy right?! 

I’m waiting for him, watching out of the window afraid he won’t make it back. Back before the storm wiped him out or drowned me alone waiting. But he made it back. He made it back!

It’s a miracle but the storm isn’t over. By this time I decide to text and call loved ones to tell them that I love them and give my final goodbye because I don’t know if we will survive what is coming. I just don’t want to drown. I can’t imagine if it seems so scary. I’ve nearly drowned before but actually drown… I’m not ready. I want to survive. I want to live. Why is this happening? Is it going to end?Nothing lasts forever? 

So is this going to end good or bad?

Suddenly things slow down and someone is saying, “I’m glad the storm has passed!”

I’m confused. I still see the storm. Is it really gone?

“Yes. Look.” The voice says again. I have no idea who this person is.

I look again…

The storm has suddenly stopped and didn’t make it to the 3rd floor. Firemen are already on the scene rescuing survivors from the 2nd floor. I can’t say much about the 3rd floor. I didn’t hear of any survivors nor deaths. Is that good or bad?

I’m just glad this was only a dream. Yes, this was an actual dream I had last week! I’ve been trying to be more consistent writing my dreams down (trying to lucid dream aha) and start a cool dream journal. Of course my dreams could be better, less frightening, especially this particular one. That was pretty much a beautiful nightmare! 

Whenever I have interesting dreams I try to remember the main feelings and objects I saw so that I can look up a possible deeper meaning. In this particular dream I looked up dreaming of storms, looking out of windows, and the number 3. Here’s what I found that most related to situations and feelings in my waking life:,

To see a storm in your dream signifies some overwhelming struggle, shock, loss or catastrophe in your waking life. The storm also represents unexpressed fears or emotions, such as anger, rage, turmoil, etc. To dream of expecting a storm represents feelings about potential conflict or arguments. You may feel that telling someone something unpleasant is going to cause a fight or cause serious problems. Anticipating trouble. On a more positive note, the storm symbolizes your rising spirituality. A storm may also reflect rapid change or progress. Caring about nothing or no one else as you move forward in a situation. 

To dream of looking out a window represents insight into what’s happening or your outlook for the future. Seeing ahead or what you feel is going to happen. It may also reflect your hopes for what is about to come. Negatively, dreaming about looking out a window may reflect expectations about the future that are based on fear, anxiety, or non-objective perspective.

The number 3 in a dream represents creation or making something happen. Your plans, goals, or intentions are coming to life. Alternatively, the number 3 may reflect a creative process or chaos. There may be unpredictability in your life. 


What do you think? Do you believe in dreams having deeper meanings? Does your dreams relate to your waking life? Have you ever looked up what your dreams meant? Do you like this for a story? I have a few more dreams I’m planning to use for Short Story Saturday:)

Let’s talk! Comment below💕